Psychological symptoms that occur in children due to separation of parents are very diverse. Irritability, irritability, anxiety and aggressive behavior are the most frequently observed symptoms. Signs of incompatibility; It varies depending on the age of the child, his or her trauma before the divorce, and the nature of the mother and father's relationship in the post-divorce period. Whether these symptoms are permanent or not depends on many factors (Yörükoğlu, 1998).
Children react differently to divorce depending on their age, gender, educational status and personality. To summarize the negative reactions given by children:
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Guilt: This feeling occurs especially in young children due to their mischief. The child feels responsible for their parents' divorce and feels guilty.
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Fear: As a result of the diminishing bond of love and trust, children develop a fear of abandonment that the parent they are with will also leave. However, it is often seen that children have economic fears about food, clothes and school expenses.
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Anger: The reactions of children vary depending on their gender. It has been observed that especially boys exhibit aggressive behavior after their parents' divorce. This aggression has been observed against their teachers, friends, and sometimes even their family.
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Sadness: Children who cannot respond adequately verbally after divorce often experience introversion, unresponsiveness, and sadness when they are confined to their rooms. Crying is also one of the situations we encounter.
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Loneliness: Changes in daily life style due to the loss of one person from the family sometimes cause children to feel lonely.
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School Success: In some families, a decrease in children's academic success has been observed after divorce.
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Physical Problems: Stomach, head and chest pains have been observed in children due to the stress they experience. According to research, the risk of asthma in these children has doubled.
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Eating Problems: After a stressful situation, children may experience excessive eating desire or loss of appetite. Special We may witness behaviors such as avoiding food or vomiting, especially in girls.
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Sleep Problems: Children of divorced parents may have a desire to sleep excessively, as well as a desire not to sleep in their own bed, not being able to sleep, and waking up with nightmares. Some problems may occur.
When parents want to end their relationship as spouses, their parenting continues. Even if a divorce occurs, parenting will continue; People will continue to meet and spend time together for the sake of their children. We can say that even after the divorce, the family is still a family that includes the mother, father and child, because both the emotional and financial responsibilities of the mother and father towards their children continue. In order for children to survive in the bonds of love and trust, the concept of family must continue in cooperation.
If we accept that each individual has their own temperament, we need to know in advance that each child's reaction to divorce will be different from each other. These reactions of children, the thought structures they predict and the emotions they feel can be analyzed with the cognitive behavioral therapy school, whose effectiveness has been proven in recent years, and a healthy change of routine can be achieved by working on children's cognitive deficiencies regarding this situation and changing their mindset.
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