After the advice given for the detected faulty attitudes, the patient often becomes defensive and says, "I know too, but I can't do it." The reaction given to the suggestion "You should set boundaries in your relationships and be able to say "no" is "I know I should say "no" too, but I cannot say "no" because the other person will be offended." Indeed, theoretical knowledge that is not applied in practical life is of no importance. So, is it possible to both know and apply?
In our society, there are two definitions that are accepted as alternatives to each other: regimented and educated. A person who has educated himself without receiving the necessary school education is called "sarcastic". Again, the person who is a kind of sarcastic and is described as "wise" is both very understanding and rich in intuition, even though he has never been to school. In short, if you are one of those who say "I know too, but I can't do it", there may be two paths in front of you.
Either be "sarcastic" and try to find solutions with patience, leaving your problems to time on this painful path. So to speak, as you get older, get wiser (have experience), at the age of 20 you cannot say "no", after the age of 65, be understood by those around you with your stance/look... without having to say "no". Do not complain about yourself during this long-term "cooking" period.
Or be "educated" and learn from the expert how theoretical knowledge can be reflected in practical application. Trust your therapist, be persistent in your therapy process, try to fulfill the assigned homework/techniques you have learned, and as your awareness increases, address the things you avoid. Therapy is a kind of training given to you (communication, stress management, thought analysis, etc.) and it requires effort, like other "schooled" processes (vocational training, conservatory life, etc.). Do not spare your efforts to “know and do”.
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