In our society, as in all societies, in the growth process that starts with children being raised in different ways according to whether they are boys or girls, including sexuality, how a woman and a man should be, how to behave, what to do and not to do or whether to accept or not. they learn cultural values and rules. Unfortunately, many of these learned and adopted rules are wrong.
These wrong rules, which are learned and adopted, cause a man or woman to develop a negative perspective and attitude towards sexuality and sexual intercourse, often even a sexual act. They cause the emergence and continuity of dysfunction.
Some of the well-known misconceptions about sexuality and sexual intercourse are as follows:
Making Love Means Sexual Engagement.
Sexual intercourse is one of the aspects of making love that provides mutual pleasure for the parties. It is not the only way to enjoy. This mistaken belief causes the neglect of other aspects of lovemaking, other than intercourse, that can be enjoyed mutually, and may disappoint the party who needs emotional aspects such as closeness and warmth in sexual intercourse and prevent him from participating in and enjoying sexual intercourse.
Women's Sexual Desire Is Low.
The frequency of sexual desire is not based on whether the person is male or female; It is an abnormal situation within a narrow limit, which can vary according to individuals, couples and their life cycles, whether they are men or women. A woman who has this wrong belief is ashamed of her own sexuality and may inhibit herself during sexual intercourse for this reason.
The Man Should Specify the Desire for Sexual Relationship or the Woman Initiating Sex is Immoral.
< br /> It is as usual for a man to start a life that both sides, one man and the other woman, live willingly and with pleasure, by saying what she wants. On the other hand, a man who passively surrenders himself to his wife's/partner's touches, or a woman who acts more actively, can get more pleasure than they ever expected.
Man or Woman Can't Say No to Making Love.
Refusal to make love does not mean rejection of your spouse/partner. The sine qua non of a mutually satisfying sexual relationship is the willingness of the parties. A man or woman cannot take pleasure from an unintentional sexual intercourse and in the same way cannot give pleasure to the other person. They may lose their pleasure.
Every Man Should Know How to Give Pleasure to Every Woman.
Sexual pleasure is not a situation that applies to everyone and is experienced within the framework of unchangeable rules. The ways and degree of pleasure in each sexual intercourse vary for everyone. Especially for women, getting more pleasure from sexual intercourse requires a learning process in which the woman is also active.
This false belief gives the message that the man does not need to question the way and style of lovemaking. However, many men who learn that their partner does not enjoy enough and do not have an orgasm may consider this situation not as a problem that needs to be resolved, but as a proof of their own masculinity and inadequacy.
All Physical Intimacy Ends With Lovemaking.
Physical intimacy Acting in line with this false belief in their sexual life and having expectations can cause the parties to experience difficulties by feeling compelled to do so even when they do not want sexual intercourse. Especially in couples who have problems in their sexual lives, unfortunately, physical intimacy can be completely removed from the lives of the parties, since it is perceived only as an invitation and an emphasis on this problematic area.
However, physical intimacy; touching, hugging, kissing is not only an expression of sexual desire, making love, but also of love, affection and warmth. to feel the warmth and trust just by touching-hugging-kissing and It is possible to have happiness. It is not a life with rules that everyone living must follow and/or not abide by, strict boundaries and framework that must not be crossed. From time to time, people may insert some fantasies, tools, and situations in order to experience excitement, add color, and get more pleasure into this life, in line with their wishes and consent. This false belief causes many people to suppress and express their sexual desires and fantasies, and hindered sexual desires inhibit sexuality or reduce the quality of pleasure. It ends.
Sexual intercourse is not an unconscious experience, a one-time experience in arousal (erection or vaginal wetting) in which no other environmental stimulus is perceived. A man or woman can be distracted during sexual intercourse due to many factors in the environment or a thought that goes through their mind. Although distraction may cause arousal and arousal symptoms (erection or vaginal wetting) to disappear, if people have sexual desire, arousal can be restored by continuing to have sex. This mistaken belief may cause the man to perceive the loss of erection as a disaster, which may cause the erection to not be regained during sexual intercourse.
A Good Sex Should Result With Orgasm.
Good lovemaking is based on the ability of the parties to experience mutual pleasure, starting with desire. However, orgasm is experienced or not. Not experiencing orgasm does not mean that the relationship is not enjoyed or satisfied. This mistaken belief may cause spouses / partners to focus on whether orgasm will be experienced from the beginning of the relationship, and this may cause the pleasure to be unsustainable, thus making orgasm unattainable.
Woman Should Have Orgasm Through Sexual Coupling.
Sexual intercourse is an experience consisting of sexual intercourse, it is the only way for a woman to have an orgasm during sexual intercourse. It is not sexual intercourse. Apart from sexual intercourse, a woman can have an orgasm with oral or manual stimulation, rubbing or masturbation or the use of sex toys during sexual intercourse. It causes. they necessarily enter a phase of dissolution that changes a lot. Until this period ends, it is physiologically unlikely that they will be able to achieve an erection again, even if there are appropriate sexual stimuli. This false belief may cause the man to perceive the inability to have sex one after the other as failure and lack of sexual power without considering this disintegration phase and cause him to worry, and this anxiety may cause erection problems over time.
Masturbation is Dirty and Harmful.
Masturbation, male or female, is the act of self-stimulation, often accompanied by erotic fantasies, to provide a favorable ejaculation for increased sexual tension. There is no physical or mental harm. This false belief leads to the rejection of sexual desire and this developmentally normal and safe form of expression, preventing the person from learning to get pleasure from his own body by knowing his own body.
Masturbation is not done during sexual intercourse.
Depending on the common opinion of the parties, it is extremely common to use masturbation to increase sexual pleasure and to provide orgasm during sexual intercourse. Even after a permanent relationship is established, in the absence or illness of the partner, in the absence of closeness to him, even as a healthy sexual act independently of the partner, it can continue for life.
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