Communication is an activity that exists in every moment of human life, creates human relations and shares information. This phenomenon, which we use in all areas of our lives, is also a part of our learning behavior. Through communication, we observe the information both in behavioral and verbal dimensions and we digest it by passing it through our own perception filter. Therefore, communication supports our development and change. Communication, which we are exposed to especially in childhood, bases our perception of the world, our feelings and thoughts in our later life.
Communication is the most important requirement that supports the development of the child's personality and intelligence. Through communication, the child makes sense of the world by making connections between himself and others. Therefore, it can be said that effective communication within the family contributes to the development of positive emotions of the child and strengthens self-esteem. Because the child is accepted as his own individual with the communication he sees in the family, and he can express himself as long as he is active in communication. In this way, he determines his attitude in other human relations and self-expression. While communicating in the family, he believes that he is valuable as much as he receives the message that he is valuable. At this point, there are some issues that the family should pay attention to in order to include the child in an effective communication. These are;
Make sure to use your body language effectively, while using expressions with words your child can understand.
Establish eye contact and keep an appropriate distance while talking to your child. give importance.
Make them feel that you respect your child's existence and that you accept him unconditionally.
Make sure that your tone of voice and the content of the message are related. Take care.
At each developmental stage, the way of communication that the child can understand varies. Therefore, using words and expressions by choosing the appropriate way of communication for the child's age ensures that the child receives the message correctly and reinforces positive behaviors towards the message he receives. The child's feelings should not be ignored, they should be accepted as they are. To be able to make the child's presence felt in communication, to be accepted and to In order to perceive the self-worth positively, it is necessary to engage in behaviors that support self-worth. At this point, keeping the appropriate distance while talking to your child reflects the message that the child's boundaries are respected. At the same time, respect for boundaries can also be shown by not entering the room unless the child gives permission, not being intrusive when playing games, toys, and time for himself. Making eye contact while speaking sends the message “I am listening and caring for you right now, I am directing my attention to you and I understand you”. The child, who feels understood, feels more comfortable in expressing his feelings and thoughts, and becomes more involved in communication. At the point where body language should be used effectively and the tone of voice and the content of the message should be related, if the behaviors shown with the word of mouth are inconsistent, if the phrase and the tone of voice are incompatible, wrong messages are sent to the child and the child cannot get the information he really needs from the message. Learns and interprets behaviors incorrectly. Therefore, while expressing his feelings and thoughts, he cannot communicate through the right channel. At the same time, being able to communicate effectively will have positive results on your attachment style with your child.
The child who grows up in a family environment where he can communicate comfortably, will be able to cope with his problems more easily in his later life, to express his thoughts more comfortably in any environment and to be able to communicate easily. is an individual who learns to perform many more skills.
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