We cannot separate people from their emotions. Feelings; It is one of the most basic elements that make a human human and has a central importance. In other words, we can say that emotions arise as a result of the interaction of people with internal and environmental factors. We have various feelings about every event and situation we encounter in our daily life. Although we are not aware of the emotions we feel at that moment, they produce reactions in an organized manner and also contain physiological, cognitive and experiential psychological systems.
At the same time, emotion; It also includes concepts such as feelings and mood. Emotions are intense feelings directed towards someone or something, but mood is less intense than emotions and lacks a direct stimulus with internal and environmental factors. It is seen that it is expressed in different ways and is unique to the individual. It has been seen that the British and Italians approve the expression of tension and anger more in the face of relationships, Indonesians accept a person to remain silent and hide their feelings when angry with their boss, but in the same situation, Australians approve of the person's expressing anger.
When we look at our country, people from childhood We see that, starting from This starts in childhood and continues into adulthood, often causing many people to be confused about emotions. It is understood that some people do not recognize their emotions or cannot decipher what they are feeling, and some people cannot express their emotions even though they recognize them. While some people reject certain emotions, others accept that emotions are something to be ashamed of and a sign of weakness. we can. This increases our perspective on events and our ability to solve our problems. Usually people The reasons for coming to psychological counseling are often thought to be emotions. In the counseling process, the focus is mostly on the thoughts and feelings of the person, and it is aimed to discover his own feelings and to raise awareness. Being able to express one's feelings also causes a strong sense of relaxation. Because if the individual cannot make sense of and express his feelings, he may feel lethargic, lazy, depressed, angry and anxious.
Distinguishing and Identifying Emotional States
Usually, in our interviews, we see that children, teenagers and adults have difficulties in defining their emotions and cannot get rid of five or six basic emotion concepts. He comes with the awareness that there are things that are not right in his life, but he cannot express his situation with what he feels comfortably. Recognizing and talking about his feelings becomes a new experience for him. For this reason, it will be a great advantage for you to be aware of your own feelings and to understand and explain the problem you are experiencing. For this, a person needs to distinguish and recognize emotional states, accept the existence of this emotion, and then learn to express it.
We have a wide variety of emotions and a large number of them. We use words and moods to describe emotion (I'm fine-bad, etc.), but we should know that words sometimes mask much more intense and different emotions. Words don't always represent our core emotions, and it's often assumed that there are deeper underlying emotions. For this reason, we should not think that emotions consist of only one color with ordinary and limited expressions. Emotions are not one color. There are different colors on the right and left. For example: Many emotions such as sense of happiness, joy-pleasure-bliss-peace-enjoy contain colors, meanings, feelings and meanings. But it is generally used with the thought that many emotions have the same meaning when we look at it. For example; Jealousy and Envy, which we can count as negative emotions, are often used in the same sense. But it is not the same.
Jealousy; While the fear of losing something one has to another person, Envy; someone else to something that he does not have We can say that it has n.
It is important that we can make this distinction. But we must not forget that emotions are rarely experienced alone. Different emotions can be experienced at the same time. It may not be possible to realize the emotions we experience all of a sudden. In order to define emotions related to many interactions and situations, we should stop and try to understand ourselves.
Suggestion: Take a pen and paper with your family, children or yourself and start with basic emotions such as Happiness-Anger-Fear. You can start by writing the emotion words and listing the different types of emotions that contain these emotions. By becoming aware of your finer emotions, you will realize how many rich varieties of these emotions exist. You can research the difference between these feelings and discuss them by talking. In addition, with this awareness you have gained, you can improve yourself by noting how you feel about the situations you experience during the day.
Naming your emotions prevents them from accumulating in the depths and appearing as disfigured after a long time. Because we know that suppressed and unexpressed emotions may one day try to express themselves in a different way and manifest themselves with diseases. For this reason, it is important for parents to both learn and teach them to recognize and express their emotions in their relationships with their children.
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