Everything started well.
The man had every feature a woman could want. It made her feel really good. They were having a good time together. There was a really nice communication and passion between them. The man was making plans for the future with the woman. It was only winter, but summer vacation plans were already ready. The woman was now completely attached to the man. He was making his plans with and according to her. After a while, the man stopped being as interested as he used to be. He could no longer reach the man he always reached as easily as before. The frequency of their meetings had decreased considerably. And finally, when the woman rebelled about this situation, the man ended the relationship. This was the move the man had been waiting for. The woman did not want to accept it at first. He couldn't get the time he spent with her out of his mind. He spent most of his time looking at the man's social media accounts. He was checking who he liked on his social media account and who he added as a friend. He also felt the need to constantly check the communication tools the man used. His mind was constantly occupied with questions such as why he was online now, who he was corresponding with, why he hadn't been online for so long. The woman could no longer go to work on time. His night sleep was irregular. He was no longer able to take care of his personal care as he used to. She was always on his mind. Maybe if he had acted differently this wouldn't have happened. I wish she hadn't rebelled. While he was wondering if there was someone else there, life had become a dungeon for him. This innocent love had now reached the point of driving him crazy. He thought life had no meaning without him.
This may be a story that will sound familiar to some of you. In fact, it is a small example of how a relationship that starts innocently turns into an obsession in a short time. Every relationship has a duration. Some are short, some are long, some are forever. So, what turns it into an obsession after the relationship ends? And how can this be avoided? Obsessive love; The person becomes obsessed with a platonic love, that is, a love that cannot be reached in reality, or a love that he had a relationship with and broke up with, and builds his whole life on that person, and has very intense feelings and thoughts about that person, and these feelings and thoughts increasingly affect himself, his environment, and sometimes even the person he is obsessed with. It starts to harm the person and reaches a level that reduces the whole functionality of the person. The most important criterion here is that the person feels very unhappy without the person he or she loves. He can't stomach her being happy without him in her life. He magnifies that person in his thoughts so much that he spends most of a day thinking about that person, following him on social media or other communication accounts, and writing scenarios about every share and every like. In this way, he begins to think about the person he is in love with even more. The person thinks that he is useless without that person that he has raised in his mind, and that life has no meaning without him. Sometimes this can lead to dangerous consequences. The person may harm himself, experience psychological problems, think about harassing or harming the person he is obsessed with, or put this thought into action, and sometimes even attempt to kill himself. So, what should we do if our love has turned into obsessive love?
We must stop following the life of the person we are obsessed with.
One of the biggest steps is to stop checking social media accounts or other communication accounts. It should not be forgotten that following the person's life causes you to make this relationship and that person bigger than they are in your mind. You need to realize that the real problem is actually in your mind. In fact, not being able to reach the person you want to fall in love with, not getting together, and staying without them is an attack on the person's ego and self-confidence and is a situation that he cannot control. Every uncontrollable situation makes people anxious and afraid. In fact, we magnify that person even more in our minds because we see not being able to reach that person as an attack on ourselves mentally. That's why we should try to gain more awareness about these feelings and thoughts we feel.
You should try to spend more time with your family and friends who really love you and give you love. Try to make more programs together with your real friends.
Try to practice your behaviors when you are without that person you are obsessed with. If you meet your friends and go out when he/she is not in your life, go to the movies. If you are going, try to do those activities even if you feel bad again. Because actions create thoughts and thoughts create behaviors. If you change your behavior, your thoughts will also begin to change.
If your obsessions increase too much. If you cannot experience any recovery in your life, you should definitely get professional support. Medication and psychotherapy support is an effective method that helps overcome obsessive love.
Hoping you stay with true love...
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