Even though I have my phone with me, I constantly check it... I feel extreme anger and anxiety if my phone does not work or turns off... I stay away from activities such as cinema and theater unless I have to because I will turn off my phone... I cannot help but constantly check my phone even though I know that I have not received a call or message notification...
These expressions sound so familiar, don't they? With the increasing development of technology in recent years, mobile phones have become indispensable. In fact, he has become so integrated with us that we feel incomplete when he is not with us. The fear of being disconnected from the communication provided by the mobile phone reveals the nomophobic situation.
The fear of being deprived of the mobile phone, which is more common especially among young people, has become quite common in our country.
Mobile phone and social media addiction is also common. It works just like the mechanism in other addictions. Just as a person experiences withdrawal symptoms when he cannot reach what he is addicted to and needs more and more, the same effects are seen in nomophobia. The underlying cause of this fear, which can be described as a modern age phobia, are feelings such as loneliness, isolation and fear triggered by the modern age.
People are lonely, people lack love…
With the increasing age of technology, there is actually a decrease in real communication. As face-to-face meetings decrease and environments where real quality time is spent decrease, society is trying to maintain its existence through technology.
Just think, we even have many opinions about a friend we have not seen for months. Thanks to technology, we know what he wears, where he goes with which friend, what job he works at, and even how he is in his emotional relationships. As people normalize these situations over time, there is a decrease in real face-to-face, one-on-one meetings.
Since we try to satisfy the feeling we call "longing" through social media, people prefer to stay away from real sacrifices for each other.
Another fundamental issue is lack of love. Cannot express love and emotions, has no real contact, no physical interaction We cannot talk about real love and care in society. This makes people lonely now. Unfortunately, we normalize this situation because we cannot truly realize our problem of being alone and our need for love. We reinforce our social isolation by approaching events with logical defensive statements, such as "We are busy at work, we cannot meet." He is busy too, I am busy too... Thus, we become more dependent individuals who attach more meaning to technology. Every moment we touch our phone, which is at hand, feels exciting to us and makes many people feel safe.
We must be a good observer and a strong communicator when it comes to children!
We will not expect great human behavior from children, but we will talk to them like great people... Abstract thinking and conceptual thinking are not developed in children in the 0-6 age group. For this reason, they cannot symbolize events, they confuse the concrete and the abstract, and they may accept threats as normal or be afraid. If the parents have supervision and there is good communication within the family, they can explain the mistakes in their children's language in a cause-effect relationship. If there is no good communication and especially if there is neglect at home, the child cannot learn what is right and what is wrong in such an environment. When he cannot learn these, he cannot make decisions about the emotions in life. He cannot manage his emotions. Problematic personalities emerge who do not know where to stand. Later, we raise children who cannot use phones, social media and the internet consciously.
Do a 'technology detox'!
There are simple methods that can be applied to get rid of nomophobia. Learning about nomophobia is the first way to get rid of this phobia. By accepting this addiction, you have taken the first step. Afterwards, you should definitely get help from a specialist physician. 7
Also, these steps may make your job easier:
Leaving your phone at home and not using it for a while may be difficult in the first hours of the day. But if you realize that this is actually a comfort. Taking a 'technology detox' from time to time can be a good solution. So you can understand people's emotions or realize what you are feeling. how is the sky Observe that. With these simple methods, you notice the color of a flower or grass. Technology does not dominate you, you dominate it and remove technology from your life at least occasionally. Apply these methods without getting caught in nomophobia.
You can set some rules for similar methods to protect your child from nomophobia.
- Stay away from the mobile phone for a while,
- Before going to bed. Instead of placing your phone on your bedside, put it at a distance further away from you.
- Slowly get rid of your obsession with constantly checking your phone by turning up the volume.
- If we can, you can stay in places where there is no phone reception, away from the city, and invest in your soul and body. You can.
Remember, although the phone may seem like entertainment and a necessity, it means much more. If we do not act consciously and set a quota for phone use, it is only a matter of time before we catch the diseases of modern times as a part of this mechanism.
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