I think one of the biggest problems between couples is communication. The biggest problem not only in couples but also in human relationships is communication.
One of the things I encounter most is couples who have to explain themselves.
They always come with these questions;
Aren't we a whole, why do I have to explain myself?
Why doesn't he understand that I'm joking?
Isn't she my wife? Would I say something bad to him? But he understands this badly.
Etc etc.
There may be millions of different reasons behind all of these questions for each person.
But at the core is the problem we have in communicating?
We are so afraid of expressing our feelings that we have learned so well not to express them that we try to express our problems by remaining silent or getting angry. We move away from an action as simple as saying that the other party's behavior or a sentence hurts or upsets us, and we complicate our relationship.
These problems, which we can close in the short term, can reach a level that causes us to worry about the future of the relationship in the long term.
So why don't we say our feelings?
When we look back socially, which of us has received love from our parents?
Maybe we are children who do not know when their heads are caressed, children whose parents work abroad, children who see their fathers two or three times a month. Or children of families that broke up at a young age, there are many more things we can list. What I mean is that we expect someone who grew up without love to express his feelings, and yes, this is a very difficult thing for him.
Can we change it? Can we teach? Can we manage to talk about our feelings?
Of course we can.
We just need to accept this first. The other party needs to accept this.
Being aware is one of the biggest steps to change.
This means we can intervene wherever we notice it.
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