Also known as 'semester break'. Even though it has been in January for many years, this semester break has a place in the minds of children of the 80-90 generation as 'February Break' ☺. It is very difficult for a person to give up his habits, no matter what the issue is.
This month, I will remind you about a valuable issue that I am late to share with you, which is timeless and will always be an earring in your ears. Our topic is your little one's report card. I guess that while the atmosphere was festive in some houses after report card day, the atmosphere was a bit tense in others. Why does this report card change the current peace of the house so much? What does the report card mean for parent and child?
There is no doubt that we all want a safe and comfortable future for our children. But let's see what the child wants for himself. What kind of life does he deem worthy of himself and what kind of work and savings does he do to experience this life? This should be the real question. Of course, we, as parents, are obliged to encourage, pave the way and support them in these savings and studies. There is only one issue we cannot overcome, and that is; We make the child feel as if they are as valuable as their course grades in the eyes of their parents. Of course, I will have a few suggestions to prevent unrest at home and misperceptions in the child during the report card period.
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When congratulating the good grades on the report card, congratulate them by emphasizing which behaviors this grade is a result of. Going result-oriented may give the child the message that you are confirming that he/she can ignore some ethical and moral values, personality traits and human value judgments in order to achieve success. listen. Instead of pressuring him to study only throughout the semester, express that you want to support him in the courses he fails and ask him what kind of help he wants from you. Emphasizing this failure and taking a stand on report card day is not a constructive approach.
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Do not get angry at him or punish him. Don't give him the message that your love is conditional on his good grades.
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Make plans that will increase your success in the next term.
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He will clear his mind during the holiday. Encourage him to do activities that will relax his body. In this way, it will be easier for him to feel ready to focus on classes again. Preventing these activities will further reduce his/her motivation for the next semester.
Do not exaggerately rejoice at the successful grades on the report card, and do not make statements that will offend him/her for unsuccessful grades. Be careful with the expressions you use. Creating the wrong perception in the child's mind may push him to use his grades as leverage in the future. He may choose to skip his classes to punish you in his own way.
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