First of all, accept that you are shy at first. Acceptance and “being as you are” always gives strength and energy to the person, and the person can use this energy in the direction he wants to be. So accept that you don't have to be very comfortable and impressive.
The sentence Beisser wrote on this subject, "A person can change not by trying to be what he is not, but by being who he is," is a perfect guide.
Now. Please check out my other mindfulness suggestions;
Be ordinary; Mediocrity is the first stop towards perfection. It is impossible to get rid of your shyness without taking a break here.
Remember, if you judge, you will be judged. In other words, couldn't the basis of your fear of being judged and humiliated stem from the fact that you are also very judgmental?
I'm not saying you should ignore social needs, but give a little more importance to your own needs. So, learn to make yourself happy before making others happy.
When contacting someone, be sure to stay in contact with yourself. The best guide for this is breathing tracking. Make sure you breathe easily while speaking.
In the light of the above principles, endure and even overcome situations that challenge you. Gradually addressing the things that increase your fear and enduring distress for a while will help you overcome shyness.
An experienced therapist will speed up the process and help you reach your immediate goals in a short time (social phobia, job interview, etc.)
To summarize the treatment with a metaphor, learn to stop perceiving the waves on the surface as life itself and focus on the calmness of the depths of the ocean.
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