I am separated from my wife and I have a 2-year-old daughter. From 9 months to 2 years of age, he had no contact with or saw his father. He reached this age with my family by my side. But he had to stay away from me with his father for a month. He is with me now, but he is very angry and cries all the time compared to the past. I cannot please. It seems like it's reactive to me and the people around me. He has acquired habits that he has never done before. He hits his head and hurts himself. He doesn't have his old cheerful mood.
Is this process normal? What is the best way for me to do as a mother?
ANSWER:
Whatever the reason, this is abandonment for the child. It means
At this age, your child begins to see his father as a stranger because he has not seen him for a long time. Time is needed for the child to reconnect securely to the father. Having to meet the father again for a month without giving this time to the child may have triggered the thought that you abandoned him and will not see him again. A child who feels this way evaluates life as more dangerous and experiences negative emotions such as anger and anxiety.
The child needs to meet at regular intervals
Every year when your child is separated from you. Regular meetings are important to avoid being re-traumatized. Problems arising from spouse identities should not harm your duties as a mother and father.
The rules and boundaries have changed within a month
Also, the person who met different rules and boundaries during the time he spent with the father. The child may forget the behaviors you taught him. If he was given everything he wanted during his stay with his father and was never told no because they thought he was little, this reinforces his negative behavior.
Self-harming behavior is risky
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