The feeling of guilt is perhaps one of the most challenging and hurtful emotions for human beings. For example, in cases of severe depression, an intense feeling of guilt is observed, along with other symptoms of depression. The person is quite touchy, has overly thoughtful, pessimistic, hopeless and obsessive features...
The feeling of guilt comes to the fore in personality structures dominated by an overly strict and judgmental superego and on a psychological basis that is overly critical towards oneself, and creates severe distress. In such personality structures, which exhibit extremely harsh and judgmental attitudes towards themselves in conscientious and moral terms, the individual is extremely strict and extremely cruel towards himself.
The individual's self-blame stems from the fact that he thinks that he has made mistakes against others in his life and cannot forgive himself for this situation... He has a harsh and inflexible attitude towards himself. And it is he himself who cannot forgive himself, not anyone else..
What is important here is the individual's "belief that he has done wrong". The fact of whether the mistake has negative effects on the individual or others, or the fact that others really hurt him. His personal accusations are not the main issue. He thinks that they are seriously offended or hurt by him and that they have ruined the lives of others, and he sincerely believes that he has caused harm, and as a result he feels terrible. And if the other party accuses him, rightly or unjustly, this situation crushes the person who feels guilty even more. Even if there is no negativity that has happened in reality, or even if there is an event that cannot be filled with anything, it is a source of great sadness for the person and he feels guilty to death. He thinks that the people who are dealing with the issue will never forgive him. He is guilty until the end and must be punished..< Because essentially, he is the very person who cannot forgive himself, and he feels very bad about himself. He cannot obsessively let go of the event that triggered his tendency to blame, cannot forget what happened and move on. Sometimes there is no real event, and life in general, all of his relationships, past experiences, past conversations make him feel guilty.
He has destroyed everything and everyone, his children, his wife, his family, his job, his success in everything. He is lonely and hopeless, he may even want to die. He cannot go the way of forgiving himself, the person's belief that he deserves punishment is very intense, and he punishes himself.
He approaches himself in a ruthless and strict manner. He struggles with intense troubles every day, and gets tired of fighting against himself. If obsessive thoughts accompany the situation, the situation becomes even worse. When severe OCD symptoms lead the person into depression, feelings of guilt together with obsessions make life even worse. It makes him unbearable.
Whenever a person makes even an ordinary mistake, the same cycle repeats. He cannot forget his mistake for a long time and his self-accusations become intense and he feels very bad. In severe and severe cases such as major depression and in situations where suicidal ideas are intense, feelings of guilt are much more severe and distressing. If you have a personality structure that makes you feel too guilty from time to time and your life becomes difficult because of this, you should seek help to find out where this heavy, judgmental and critical structure comes from.
Again, when you look at yourself, you see that you have problems with self-confidence and that you do not seek the approval of others. If you realize that you cannot feel good without taking it and that you cannot make your own choices, it may be a problem.
Perfectionism, worthlessness, deep concerns about life and human relations, and the idea that you are not good at anything or smart enough, beautiful, or successful enough are common, and you feel self-conscious in the face of bad events. He/she may develop anger towards others and then a deep sense of guilt. Being unable to get negative words and thoughts out of his/her mind, not being able to forgive himself/herself for what happened, tending to be constantly depressed and becoming worried easily. Individuals who always need to be in control, who try to stay in balance by constantly controlling events and people, by unconsciously reflecting the negative emotions and thoughts that they cannot control in their inner world, can easily feel guilty when they are depressed.
Under normal circumstances, it is a serious mistake committed by a person. If there is, the person will take responsibility for his mistake; if he caused serious damage, he will naturally take responsibility for his own fault. He may feel guilty about the incident, but he apologizes, tries to make amends and repairs, and removes the incident from his life by moving away from this disturbing feeling of guilt.
It has a dramatic course in people with an overly self-blaming and critical nature, personality disorders, or people with normal personality traits but suffering from depression.
The exact opposite of this situation is seen in Antisocial personality disorders. These people have almost no developed conscience and moral and human values. Since these people do not have characteristics such as pity or compassion in their nature, they never feel guilty, even if they cause serious damage to the property or life of others... A person who is overly judgmental towards others, who ignores self-love, respect and self-values, and who cannot love himself/herself, needs help and support...
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