Psychologist Naciye Tokaç warned about lack of self-confidence.
Psychotherapist/Family, Couple and Marriage Therapist Expert Psychologist Naciye Tokaç said, "It is an internal feature that is not innate but begins to develop with birth; the self's opinion about itself." Self-confidence, which I can define as; is indispensable for a good, happy and balanced life. The self-concept I am talking about here is the person's essence structure, his spiritual evaluation of himself, in short, his existence itself. Everyone wants to have good, happy, balanced, valuable days in their life; they have not lived this life in vain. Many people complain that they have talents and that there are many things they can achieve, but they are worried about failing and do not have the courage. This is where we encounter the situation we call self-confidence. The person who is not self-confident enough prefers not to try, and even if he tries, he prefers not to attempt that task because of his concerns about failing. This is Tokaç stated that a person who does not have enough self-confidence has difficulty not only in the work he does, but also in his relations with people, and said, "For example; He cannot defend himself against his superiors at work, against his parents or elders in the family, sometimes against his spouse, relatives, or against his friends in the social environment. Anxiety about being judged, being misunderstood or not being understood, and the thought of not being able to express himself prevent him from expressing himself as he is. In this case, the person will either do everything very well and perfectly so that he can stand out to others, and this will allow him to expect high standards from himself. Or he continues his life by not taking any action and hiding himself. However, secretly, he continues to talk disparagingly towards himself. A person who does not trust himself; When he encounters problems and does not know what to do, he feels helpless, weak and incompetent because he believes that he cannot succeed or overcome them. When he wants to start a relationship or make an offer to someone, he thinks that he will not be reciprocated and will be rejected, so he thinks that he is not a lovable person and not a person who can be valued. He does not act assertive because he is often incompetent and not someone who can influence others. He feels weak and He does not have the courage to try because he feels vulnerable," he said. For example; He actually thinks that he can be more talented in business life, that he can show his talents and have a better career, but he thinks that he cannot show this because he cannot express himself. Here we see that the person has many negative thoughts and beliefs about himself. The first thing to do is to evaluate oneself objectively, so that the answers to the questions of who I really am and what my abilities are are analyzed realistically. I can also say this about self-confidence. Lack of self-confidence may not be an existing condition, it is also related to the person feeling relatively inadequate, worthless and unsuccessful compared to others because he cannot evaluate himself objectively. No one is superior to each other. Of course, there can always be someone who is smarter, smarter, more enterprising, more able to think practically, and more solution-oriented. However, this does not mean that the others are inadequate. Everyone is valuable and different from others in their own inner world and existence. What I want to say with all this is; It is necessary for everyone to accept themselves as they are, with their existence. Only then does it begin to use its existing features and eliminate any shortcomings. Thus, the person begins to develop self-confidence," he said.
Tokaç stated that the person whose self-confidence develops and feels valuable also gains the joy of life, "Because the person who is at peace with himself and loves himself will establish more positive relationships with others. "In this case, it will contribute to making life an enjoyable activity rather than a necessity," he said.
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