Let's talk about learned helplessness with the elephant story.
To raise elephants in India, they tied them to a stake with a thick chain when they were little. Of course, it is not possible for this baby elephant to break the chain, break it or remove the stake. At first, the little elephant tried with all his might to get rid of this, he tried many times, but he could not change the result and could not regain his freedom.
As the years pass, the elephant becomes huge...
It begins to be able to afford tens of times the power of the stake and chain to which it is tied. But the elephant never makes such an attempt. Because he believed that he could not be free. What won't break anymore is the elephant's faith, not its chain. We call this learned helplessness in psychology.
So, what is this learned helplessness?
It is a state of mind that comes with the belief that if the person's reactions do not reach the result, he cannot change the outcome. If the person has experienced many failures; Even if he tries again, he does not tend to take any steps, thinking that he is not in control of the events and that he will not succeed.
It is of course possible and natural for there to be helpless situations in human life. Sometimes it may be difficult to find solutions to certain issues or the person may feel helpless. However, in learned helplessness; Even though we are not really helpless, we accept failure from the beginning by thinking that we are helpless, as in the elephant story, and not doing anything to solve it.
As a result, people's joy of living may decrease and they start doing only the things they have to do. People may also experience lack of self-confidence and weakening of thinking and perception. And now people in learned helplessness begin to accept pain physiologically and psychologically.
The reason why learned helplessness occurs in people; Examples include exposure to constant humiliation, loss of trust in people, negative environmental conditions, psychological problems such as trauma and depression, and a stressful home or work environment.
I can almost hear you asking what we should do to overcome learned helplessness. Accusatory criticisms such as "You couldn't do it again" should not be made. The person should not be given tasks that he cannot handle, he should be motivated and feel successful, and the success of his work should be appreciated.
Finally, as in the example of the elephant story; It is someone making you believe that your life, which they shape and restrict according to their own interests, is not under their control…
In short...
Whether within the society we live in , whether in an individual sense, let's never forget this, okay?
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