Adolescence turns into a nightmare for all families for various reasons. Adolescence is the period in which deadlocks, contradictions, boundary crossings and arguments are most experienced. The world of this period is completely different. It is a process in which the adolescent sets his own rules, feels always right and very independent, experiences his emotions beyond limits, and especially thinks that his family does not understand him and generally closes himself off to the family. In this developmental stage, challenging the family, especially opposing it, nourishes their existence; The way of saying "I exist and I am free, no one can interfere with me" and constant arguments with the family are in the form of tantrums. When problems at home are supported by a negative environment, things often lead to substance addictions, running away from home, and pathologies. In short, this is the period of extremes, so it is very sensitive because it is dangerous.
Entering the adolescent's world requires patience and understanding. Parental attitudes that directly oppose their demands and oppressive or violent behavior further alienate adolescents from their homes. The home becomes a series of power struggles, so the adolescent's hiding and lying behaviors may develop. Everything that his family opposes begins to seem closer and more enjoyable to him. In a period of contradictions and exaggerations, the work of families becomes even more difficult.
In order to have a peaceful home environment in this period, it is necessary to listen to the adolescents a lot. One of the greatest benefits is to listen to even the views you may disagree with without making a statement first. It is possible to ease the process by telling the teenager that you understand him/her and that it is normal for him/her to think that way and what you were thinking when you were that age. Expressing yourself, especially using I language, is another way to express that you respect the adolescent's thoughts and that you oppose him because of the emotions he creates in you. During this period, it is very important to not be too oppressive and to get to know your circle of friends. Especially in every period, it is necessary not to compare the adolescent with others in this period. Spending time together is worth its weight in gold. Even if your children's feelings and thoughts sometimes disturb you, do not prevent them from expressing them. It is especially important that your answer begins with a positive sentence. It offers m. Breathing and muscle relaxation exercises are especially useful for anger problems. You should not hesitate to seek psychological support in homes where conflicts have not ended.
More moderate and understanding attitudes will make things easier, remembering that you have gone through the difficult world of adolescence under the conditions of another time period.
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