Problems between spouses may arise from the fault of both parties or from the fault of one party. Failure to solve problems brings unhappiness and may lead to the unexpected end of the relationship. However, with the support received, many of the problems can be solved and a happier relationship can be possible. The important thing is to show the necessary sensitivity and take initiative to solve the problem. What is Faulty Communication, One of the Problems That Shakes Marriage? One of the reasons for conflict between spouses is communication problems. Faulty communication is a situation that prevents spouses from understanding each other and therefore causes problems. Correct communication, in short, means being able to express feelings and thoughts to the other party in the way they are intended to be expressed, and for the other party to understand it correctly. Sometimes people cannot explain their true feelings and thoughts to the other party correctly due to their own mistake or the other party's faulty attitude. Our personal characteristics, our communication-expression style, our level of consciousness, our cultural values, the way we perceive our spouse, our expectations, our personality traits and our perspective can cause faulty communication. Interpersonal communication occurs between at least two people. One party is the source of the communication and the other party is the receiver. Communication is done through words and body language. In communication, our mind first perceives body language and facial movements and then gives meaning to communication through words. 65-70% of communication is done through body language, while words are only 20-25% effective in communication. We can exemplify this as follows; Even if a person looks very angry at us and says "I'm not angry with you, nothing is wrong", we believe the facial expression rather than his words and act accordingly. This perception stems from an ability we acquire at birth. The baby, who does not yet know or recognize anything in the world, who does not know how to speak or understand, perceives the world from his mother's face and movements and recognizes himself. This characteristic of ours stays with us throughout our lives, and we receive messages from what we see rather than what we hear. For this reason, our body language tells more to the other party than our words. If there is an error in communication between spouses, serious problems arise in the marriage. In faulty communication, spouses cannot express themselves correctly or understand each other correctly. Factors such as prejudice, inability to empathize (feeling the other person's feelings and thoughts), efforts to impose one's own thoughts, selfishness, jealousy, cultural values, and personality traits may lie behind faulty communication. Since some people who have problems between their spouses are not aware of them, the problem cannot be solved and they make their marriage unbearable. Here, depending on the cause of the problem, the problem should be solved by either Family Counseling or individual psychotherapy. The problem of faulty communication is solved through individual or couple meetings, and by ensuring that the spouses understand and explain each other better, family problems caused by faulty communication are solved.
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