It is not possible to explain the question of why we are cheating with a single answer. But cheating doesn't just happen to troubled relationships; It can happen to happy relationships too.
The definition of cheating is relative. According to one person, his partner's look at another is considered cheating; According to another person, the flirty look of their partner does not count as cheating. Each person's definition differs according to their moral value judgment. What does cheating mean to us? Which emotion does it correspond to?
Unfortunately, if the concept of loyalty is not learned and internalized in childhood, the door to triangulations will be opened in adult relationships.
If we talk about some reasons for cheating; While cheating may also have a cause such as genetic inheritance,
- apathy,
-pressure,
-socioeconomic problems,
- sexual problems (One of the biggest misconceptions about cheating is that cheating is only about sex. Cheating is mostly about “desire” (Perel, 2017). The desire to feel special, to be seen, to be approved; or in short, the desire to be desired. Established The basis of relationships is actually vitality instead of sexual intercourse (Perel, 2017). patterns,
-spouse's long-distance job,
-no dating other than their spouse,
-living in a crowded family environment (quality sex, no quality time),
-there are many cheating couples around,
-alcohol or other addictions,
-sex addiction,
-fear of intimacy ,
-need fulfillment (satisfaction of sexual desire, unable to unite with the spouse, not sexually satisfying, some fantasies are not suitable for the spouse, cannot tell their fantasies to the spouse or the spouse refuses),
-a single person Doesn't it blind people?
In order for the trustless relationship to go through a healthy process, the couple must receive expert support. With the support of Deception Therapy, trust is rebuilt. Some responsibilities fall on both the cheating and the cheated party, and the couple remains stable throughout the process. It goes down to the root cause of being deceived. It should not be forgotten that there can be no justification for cheating. However, the reasons should be looked into so that the relationship does not get hurt again.
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