Marriage is a rosy dream for some, a fearful dream for others, but sooner or later it is a situation that the majority want to realize or feel obliged to realize. In Turkish culture, when we ask why we want to get married, the variety of answers we receive is not great; First of all, one of the most important answers, under the title of being a family, can be embellished with different sentences such as having children, giving birth to and raising a person. But if you get married to have children; If this is your main theme, you can divorce for your child... You heard right... The only thing that an unhappy marriage can give or teach your child is unhappiness, regret, anger, etc. emotions and related negative behaviors. Since you got married for the child, now it's time to divorce for the happiness of your child...
Let's come to another answer; Economic conditions have become the attraction of marriage. The limitations of opportunities may help you foster feelings of admiration or love for the other person. However, those who marry for money and opportunities can also divorce for financial reasons. How Does? After marriage, you can realize that this is not what you are looking for, this is not your main need, and you can divorce after you have achieved a certain amount of material wealth or by meeting this desire with compensation. Marriage for money is like a promissory note, it will be of no use to you when it expires...
If you got married to make your spouse happy and to devote yourself to him, the results are not very painful... The possibility of pathological problems or inferiority in people who disregard their own self and try to live completely for someone else. It is highly probable that they will end their feelings of divorce by realizing that they need to do something for themselves and break their addiction.
Another one is the "I'm old" problem. Numerical data such as the age of marriage, the age of being a parent, the age of love have already been discovered by the culture, and science is still unaware of this (!) Those who marry for their age can divorce with the feeling that I am getting old again and I cannot be happy anymore, I want to live freely as I want...
Finally, in another example, couples who say that they are different from each other and that this difference complements each other They don't know that they are carrying a bomb that will explode inside. Research shows that while people who are more similar can have healthy relationships as harmonious couples, the initial attraction and feelings of complementarity of people who are different sometimes turn into disagreement and disharmony, leading to separation. If you say that we are different, that's why we are getting married, these differences can lead to divorce over time.
So, if you are wondering what reason you should find and want to get married…
First of all, such reasons are the expectations of many from marriage. Before completing the concept of being me, you first divorce yourself by switching to the phenomenon of being we... Then from your spouse... Of course, there are those who want to get married in order to be happy, but when they say this, they immediately list these things... The main issue is the expectation of happiness, they can adapt for a lifetime with similarities and they can change their lives in every aspect. Answers such as choosing a companion to share with are usually in the next order.
When we look at general trends in the world, statistics show that marriage rates are decreasing and divorce rates are increasing. Today, while divorce rates in some countries such as the USA rise to 50-55 percent, the same rate varies between 40-45 percent in Europe. Divorces most occur in the first year of marriage, and more than 50 percent of all divorces occur in the first 7 years of marriage. The reasons we mentioned are mostly the reasons for these. Therefore, before getting married, it is necessary to think carefully about the reasons for getting married. However, it should not be forgotten that divorce, like marriage, is a natural choice when necessary. Just like you carefully choose the ingredients for a beautiful cake, before getting married, you should also think about the ingredients for a healthy marriage so that your cake tastes good. Marriage must first be based on mutual desire and consent. This desire and consent must first be supported by the expectation of happiness. Couples who can understand each other under all circumstances and know how to behave towards each other are always one step ahead. Also, this expectation of happiness; mutual communication skills, problem-solving skills, being able to protect me while trying to be us, creating common goals and objectives, making people feel a sense of trust and changing their dreams. l should be supported by people who can know and love the person they are with. If you look at marriage as a project, researching these questions and having these plans before issues such as children, finances and family creates a solid foundation for this project.
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