In the "Power of Self-Compassion: Emotional Resilience" webinar organized by Walk of Life, Dr. Christopher Germer and Assoc. Dr. I was very impressed by the information shared by Kristin Neff. So, I wanted to share with you a study we did in education.
Let's imagine that a close friend of yours is going through a difficult time and asks for help.
How do we approach him?
What do we tell him?
/> What tone of voice do you use?
Will you support him/her?
We generally use forgiving, understanding and reassuring approaches. Maybe we can motivate him to feel good and try to show him his good sides and achievements. We try to make him notice the aspects he cannot see. We try to make him feel that he is not inadequate and helpless, that we are with him...
Now, let's imagine the moment when you feel bad, going through a difficult situation, experiencing an event that cannot be overcome.
Forgiving, inspiring, supportive to our close friend. Do we treat ourselves in the same way as we behave, compassionately and understandingly?
Many people approach themselves more cruelly, pessimistically, critically and hostilely. We have a harder time admitting our mistakes, and we act judgmental and accusatory. It's as if we haven't achieved or overcome anything so far...
So why do we approach others with forgiveness, acceptance and understanding, but we don't deem ourselves worthy of this behavior?
The journey of being compassionate towards ourselves begins with this awareness. This awareness means showing the support, compassion and understanding one gives to oneself.
What is being compassionate towards ourselves?
Self-compassion; It means being friends with ourselves, accepting our mistakes, loving ourselves, valuing ourselves and not forgiving ourselves no matter what.
Maybe it will be difficult to do this at first, but we can start this journey by giving ourselves a chance and trying.
Come on. Let's give ourselves this chance!
Dr. As Christopher Germer said; “Anyone can learn to be self-compassionate.”
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