We are all familiar with the familiar definition that first comes to mind when family is mentioned: The smallest structure/unit that makes up society. We grow, develop, learn and even change in this small structure. Our experiences here shape our relationship with the world. So, what happens when problems arise in this small structure? How to deal with these problems?
The first logical explanation that comes to mind is to gather and talk about the problem, and even solve it in the most practical and shortest way, if possible. However, sometimes even talking about the problem can be a challenging experience for family members. At such times, it is very important to remember that each family member may be struggling with the problem. You are definitely not alone. Just like the fingers of a hand, each finger is different from the other in both shape and function. For the hand to be functional, different fingers must work together.
The existing problem concerns all family members. With a similar approach, in family therapy it is considered that the problem may be multifaceted and does not belong to a single family member. If the problem is the problem of all family members, the whole family is expected to attend the family session for the solution. With family therapy, the aim is for family members to make their voices heard by each other while creating a safe space for conversation in the session room.
Although the problem is the problem of the whole family, there are other factors that play a role in the formation of this problem. Apart from the family's own system, the effects of work, friends, school, community and culture on the problem should also be taken into consideration. With family therapy, exploring the interactions of the family, which is the smallest structure, with other structures strengthens the relationships of the individuals in the family with each other. In this way, resources are created to cope with different possible challenges in the future.
Every family is special and different. Therefore, the solutions found are valid for the family where the problem occurs. What works for one family may not work for another. With family therapy support, cycles around the problem are discovered. Prejudiced stereotypes held by family members can be changed. Resources in the family can be noticed. Positive ways of communication can be discovered. Useful conflict-free coping skills can be developed. Trust within the family The environment of love can be recreated.
Let's not forget that it is quite normal to have difficulties from time to time in this small but large structure. Happy families are not those who do not experience problems, but those who have developed the ability to cope with these problems. Every member of the team is very valuable in this teamwork.
Hope you have good days with your most precious ones.
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