Starting nursery/school is an important life experience for the child. These experiences gained at the beginning affect subsequent processes. Before the child starts kindergarten; Is it a joint decision of the parents for the child to start kindergarten? Is the family ready for the idea of starting nursery? Does he start kindergarten willingly? Is the child's development suitable for starting nursery? What are the family's expectations from the child and the institution? Do the institution and the family have a consensus to cooperate? Do the institution and the family share the same beliefs and common values about life? It is the family's responsibility to evaluate with questions such as these.
The adaptation process can be challenging and painful for the child, parent and educator. Managing this experience in a healthy way will be possible if the family and the educational institution clearly state their mutual expectations. Negative emotions of the family, such as anxiety, fear, helplessness and excessive dependency on the child, are responded to by the child and the process is difficult. Positive information previously given to the child about the school/nursery will contribute to the child's development of a sense of confidence.
A new sibling joining the family can be difficult before starting the nursery in current situations such as moving, divorce, illness, losing a relative, or unrest in the family. An expert's opinion should be sought first.
In line with your research and evaluations, you have determined the institution that is suitable for you and your child. It is important for the child to visit the institution before the first day of the nursery/school. Seeing the classroom, cafeteria, playgrounds, briefly the environment in which they will be located, at a time when there are no other children and practices are not being carried out, and meeting the teacher and institution staff will strengthen the feeling of confidence.
While shopping for nursery/school supplies (clothes, stationery, etc.) together, informing them about what the materials you buy are for and how they will be used will help the child form a forethought about the school.
Before nursery/school starts. First, bedtimes and sleep patterns should be arranged according to school time.
The meaning of the word nursery / school is to learn new things, make new friends, experience different activities, and grow up in accordance with the development of the word. Instill the idea that this is where he went because he wanted to and deserved it. Reinforce the idea that only children go, have fun, learn by playing games, and have a pleasant time with their friends.
Provide clear and accurate information, avoid disappointing information.
Include the topic of nursery/school in conversations. Taking it, telling stories, and reading story books about children starting school will be supportive. Prepare the ground for him to share his feelings, talk without belittling or judging him, show that his anxiety is normal, that other children have similar concerns, and that you understand him by telling him what you felt when you first started school.
Parents should not reflect their own feelings and thoughts to the child. Try not to express your feelings of worry, fear, or anxiety, even in environments where you think the child cannot hear. Remember that children easily understand your feelings.
Being confident, determined and comfortable will ensure that your child is happy.
In this process where socialization will begin, he will separate from his individuality and realize that he is a part of the society, moving forward in a healthy way will be achieved through the cooperation of the family and the institution. It will be possible with .
Separating from your child may be challenging for you, managing this process correctly is the responsibility of you, the parents.
The awaited day has come; Your child's nursery/school adaptation will be provided within the orientation program within the time period determined by the institution. If there is no gradual adaptation program for the nursery determined by the institution, choose an activity time that your child likes and enjoys on the first day (music, painting, storytelling, dance activity, etc.), let him participate in two activities on the second day, until lunch on the third day, until his nap on the fourth day, "Gradual acclimatization" from breakfast to afternoon nap on the fifth day is a practice valid for all age groups. Although the adaptation process takes about a month, it differs for each child and cannot be compared. The child's adaptation process; It depends on the attachment relationship with the parent, the behavioral model and attitude of the family, temperament (character), chronological age, developmental age, and the behavior of the educator.
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One of the concerns that the child may experience in the first days of school is that he will stay at school all the time, will not be able to return home, and will spend the whole day at school. Arrival and departure times to school should be explained clearly and in accordance with his/her development, and a specific and clear time period such as "At the end of the play time, after lunch, after afternoon breakfast" should be given and this time should never be missed.
Anxiety, Be understanding of their concerns and fears, and listen carefully without judging, belittling, or mocking them so that they can express their feelings to you easily. Make them feel that you accept their feelings. It will be much easier for a child who can express his emotions freely to feel safe.
Give them the freedom to choose what to wear when going to school/nursery (prepare a few options suitable for seasonal conditions, school layout, and self-care skills); Support him to make his own preparations. The opportunities you give will reinforce the feeling of being in control of some things.
Do not be flexible in matters such as your sleeping routines, limits, watching television, tablet and phone use, etc. The previously established rules should continue during the adaptation process.
The family's determination, emotional readiness, and commitment to their child. Believing that it is correct will facilitate the adaptation process.
Family members should have a common attitude and determination regarding the rules. Different attitudes and behaviors can cause confusion for the child who is in the adaptation process. In cases where he does not want to go to school, he may prefer a compromising attitude; going to school should not be a matter of negotiation.
New beginnings and new environments can be worrying for every individual. They may have difficulty adjusting to a new environment, such as teachers, friends. Taking the cookies or cakes you make together to school and sharing them with his friends may help him relax.
Psychosomatic symptoms such as headache, abdominal pain, and nausea may occur during the adaptation process to school. You should help the child calm down by chatting about his feelings and showing that you understand him and accept the existence of his pain. Explaining that other children may have similar feelings, reading books and even helping their own school adaptation. You can develop healthier methods by getting information about your emotional state by talking about your pain.
Learn the nursery/school rules, you and your child. They may say that the rules are boring. Learning that rules are the basis of socialization and that these rules serve our security, and the importance of sharing, cooperation and kindness are good skills at this age.
Adjustment and trust in the teacher play an active role in the child's development. Healthy adaptation will manifest itself as interacting and communicating with his friends and teachers, starting to explore the environment when he feels safe, and enjoying learning new things.
Time is needed, adaptation problems may be more severe at the beginning of the week, week after week. It will accelerate downward towards the end. You can shorten this process with patience, love, calmness and determination.
Let's not forget that every child is different and special. Observing the child's signals and reading them in a healthy way is essential for us to approach sensitively.
Your approach to your child in the first days of school is very important.” By directing people to positive emotions with questions such as "What did you like most at school today?" "What made you laugh the most at school today?" "What excited you most at school today?"
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