If I were born again, I would want to be married to you again. This is a miraculous statement, what a joy, what a great happiness it is for those who can say it and hear it, if you have the same feelings and thoughts. We do not start our relationship by saying "then we will end our marriage and leave", we take steps believing that we will be happy. While taking this important step, being aware of some things in advance ensures a more enjoyable and healthy happy relationship than assuming it. There are differences between what we think, what we assume, and what we experience... I don't know how many of the questions asked to you have you answered by saying yes and how many times you wanted to get an answer by saying yes... Marriage is a very important decision that affects the course of your life by saying yes.. I liken this decision to the waves of water dropped into still water. I liken it to creating a . The decision you make will have positive or negative effects on yourself and the environment... and even on having a baby and raising healthy and useful individuals for society... It is a very rare decision. I do not want a relationship that you started as an individual to end. When you say that, you can only separate when the law allows it. After family courts and many procedures (such as sharing of property and children, if any), you are legally given the right not to live together from now on.
Now, I don't want to intimidate you, of course, marriage is really a very nice thing. If the institution can be lived in harmony, compromise, tolerance, love and respect... A choice that makes men and women healthy and happy, when both parties want to continue this union....
Being aware of why you decided to marry; Evaluating and realizing your own individuality helps you to live a more enjoyable and happy life and to be a couple that produces effective solutions to the problems you will encounter.
Newly dating couples draw my attention when they talk about their lovers to others. They say, 'We have many things in common.' In fact, couples who decide to get married think that they are very similar, whereas marriage and partnerships are the most important factor in the continuation of the relationship. It is the ability to accept differences.
It is the decision of whether you can accept the other person as he is. In the early stages of relationships, engagement people begin to experience problems in their marital lives due to their belief and efforts that they can change the other party in some issues and events that they believe will be problematic. Of course, people try to be in harmony while living together, but this does not mean that one can change the other in the direction they want.
A very important factor in partnerships - marriages is the concepts of addiction and commitment - on which of the experiences they are based on. You can think of these concepts as economic and emotional. Addiction brings with it obligation; The person becomes alienated from himself and the other person, and commitment means being together freely and willingly and being able to separate from each other when necessary without harming each other.
When you make a decision to marry, you should have individual meetings with an expert working in this field in order to get to know yourself and be aware of your needs before implementing it. I recommend. Because if the answers to some questions will affect your life and the life of the other person, especially with such an important decision, you will definitely need professional consultancy and training.
In our culture, not only individuals but also families, in other words, get married. Communication is a very important factor in marriage. Interpersonal communication (with your own family, with the family of the person you plan to marry, with the person who will be your spouse), your communication with the opposite sex, the communication style you choose makes it easier or more difficult.
Another very important issue in marriage is the lack of information about sexual life. and your incorrect information. With the pre-marital counseling you receive on these issues, you can eliminate any problems in advance. If you have sexual dysfunctions, they should be treated before marriage. When the sexual dysfunctions seen in men and women are briefly mentioned; The diagnosis of vaginismus, which is a disorder encountered in women and seen only in our country, is a nightmare for many young women and even affects the marriage life of the couple. It is an important problem that affects the temperature.
Vaginismus also; Fear of sexual intercourse is the involuntary contraction of muscles. When the diagnosis of Vaginismus is decided by the gynecologist after it is determined that there is no abnormal formation in the genital structure; It is a disorder that can be completely treated with psychotherapy. There are many wrong practices in this regard. Giving painkillers, local anesthesia, hypnosis, etc.. In men, problems such as erectile dysfunction (inability of the penis to become capable of sexual intercourse or primary ejaculation-premature ejaculation) are among the common problems. As a result of the physiological examination and examinations performed by the urologist, such a situation is caused by organic factors. When the problem is not available, drug and psychotherapy supported treatment is provided. Cognitive behavioral psychotherapy applications give very good results in a short time for the problems faced by men and women
BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!!
Please take a pen and paper and Answer the following questions by writing them. Then give these questions to your partner and even ask him to do the same thing. I guess you will have an idea about many situations, feelings and thoughts about yourself and the other person that you have not yet realized. With a better offer, you can make this study more detailed and comprehensive. You should meet as a couple with an expert on the subject and receive training and information.
1. What you like and dislike about yourself
2. What others like and dislike about you
3. Ask yourself why you want to get married
4. What kind of marriage do you want to have?
5. What kind of partner do you dream of being married to
6. Is your relationship based on commitment or addiction
7. What do you think are common and different with your current partner?
8. Which aspects of your differences bother you the most
9. Why do you think the other person is marrying you
10. Why do you want to marry the other person
11. How was your parents' marriage? What do you like and dislike about their marriage?
12. with your partner's family Your harmony and closeness (communication and understanding)
13. Your partner's closeness of harmony with your family (communication understanding)
14. What issues do you most often have problems with and argue with your partner?
15. How helpful are the methods you use to solve problems between you and your partner
16. Your perspective on financial matters and your plans when you started living together
17. Commonalities and differences in your belief (not religion), philosophy of life and value judgments
18. Points where your individual career plan and marriage intersect
19. The trust you have in each other - jealousy
20. Your satisfaction with the time you spend for yourself and your togetherness
21. Your awareness about your physical and sexual compatibility, the adequacy of your knowledge about sexual life
22. For having a baby a. How long will it take and after what would you consider it appropriate to make such a decision? b. Your opinion (estimate) about your partner's opinions and willingness on this subject.
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