The first questions families ask are 'why do they behave like this, how can we understand our children?' In fact, knowing basic psychological facts is essential to establish correct communication.
'KNOWLEDGE IS THE FUNDAMENTAL CONDITION FOR ESTIMATE GOOD COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILD'
We all view the events we experience through our own mental lens. we see. The degree to which this lens refracts reality varies from person to person. Just as someone who wears glasses forgets that they are wearing them after a certain period of time, we forget that our thoughts on events are our own interpretations and are biased. Forgetting this fact causes serious problems, especially in families' communication with their children.
For example, if our child's success at school decreases and he becomes reluctant to go to school, parents usually make a short investigation about what is happening at school. If there is no concrete reason from the child or the teacher, he is found guilty. The culprit is laziness (also through the family lens). Their children are tired of lessons, they do not have the eyes to read. In fact, what is happening is acting hastily and labeling it negatively without thoroughly analyzing what is going on in the child's world, why he reacts this way, and how he feels. Sometimes, this type of reluctance arises from traumas that cannot be told to parents because of fear, sometimes learning problems, and sometimes anxiety. Making quick conclusions just by looking at children's reactions brings with it many problems.
WE SHOULD REMEMBER THAT THERE MAY BE SOME REASONS BEYOND THE APPEARANCE
Therefore, approaching our children's world with a positive interest, It is necessary to accompany their emotions and improve our communication skills. I summarize what needs to be done as 'open ears, close mouths'. I hope we can understand our children and each other well. Best wishes…
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