“Speak when you are angry, and you will see that you will give the best speech that you will regret.” says Amrose Bierce. We have all made speeches that go beyond our purpose. We may have been slaves to anger, or maybe we wanted to be. We are willing to do this most of the time. Is it in vain that it is said that anger is sweeter than honey? But apart from enjoying our anger, our ancestors also summarized the destructiveness of anger, primarily towards ourselves and our loved ones, as a sharp vinegar jar could harm us.
The first question we should ask ourselves about anger management is: Do I love my anger? Because if you really want to control it, the prerequisite is that we stop loving our anger. Otherwise, it will be something like complaining about anger management or putting it in my side pocket.
The biggest justification for anger is often the injustice we see ourselves. We are usually so focused on what we have accumulated and our current emotional state that we ignore our thoughts. However, thoughts are the mother of emotions. It is this mother that gives birth to anger; love and compassion..
Identifying ourselves without taking any action; It is most vital that we diagnose it early. Counting to 10 is one of the most commonly known ones. The aim is to dress the wound until the ambulance arrives; It is to gain time to avoid doing unwanted things.
Would you sail on a boat in a stormy sea? In times of anger, there is a huge fluctuation in our blood due to the increase in adrenaline. After some time, the wind begins to calm down and the fluctuation decreases. However, here we are the wind, the sea, and the boat... The wind is our thoughts and emotions, the sea is what happens in our body... The boat is our expectations and purpose from life. It will not be easy to control anger without understanding all these.
10 Suggestions for Controlling My Anger
First of all, organize your diet. Consume at least 15-20 different things a day, depending on your possibilities in terms of variety (olives, cheese, tomatoes, peppers, dill, parsley, carrots, onions…) There is no need to say the value of the amount. Of course, without forgetting foods that are good for the brain, such as fish, walnuts and purslane. B-12 status is also effective in anger and depressive moods. This Consuming meat is also beneficial. If you do not consume meat, eggs, milk and dairy products and lentils are recommended. Again, your thyroid status and hypoglycemia level are also important in anger control. There are already enough television programs that talk about these issues. Sleep patterns are important. There are external conditions such as the temperature of the room and the dark environment for deep sleep. But in addition to these, there are also the thoughts that keep you awake. Thoughts are unbearable. If so, leave it until the morning. If you can't do it, get up and take notes aside so that you can evaluate and sleep more healthily. Write at length if necessary. Organized things make people feel at ease. If the problems you experienced in the past are still with you, find solutions for them. Don't neglect it. Especially in trauma and post-traumatic stress disorders. (PTSD) Learn breathing exercises and relaxation techniques. Some of these include counting to yourself during a crisis, going out to the balcony, breathing deeply and drinking water to balance the body's oxygen. There are many videos you can find on the internet and CDs you can buy from bookstores. You can also go to institutions that provide yoga and reiki services. Acquire hobbies that have a social meaning. What does this mean: Activities that you acquire with many people while acquiring a hobby and improving your social side.. In your moment of anger, try to think of anything valuable about the subject. When discussing with a friend, what you shared in the past or what you will share tomorrow; Tell your child how much you love him/her without yelling and that expressing anger violently can harm him/her. This is valid for all your loved ones. Cultural and artistic activities regulate our emotions. It is the reflection of ugly turned into beautiful, chaos turned into order. Especially the work you do actively will help your emotions find expression and turn into production. Many complex thoughts and undischarged emotions create intense pressure. The joy experienced by turning it into production is very relaxing. Sports is a value that contributes in many ways. By doing sports, you eliminate toxins, you will be happy by releasing endorphins, and you will still feel the happiness of doing a job. You use your time actively and productively, and you socialize if you do it with others. Losing excess weight with exercise Its benefits are indisputable, from the way we sit and stand up to the way we breathe. Read and criticize everything that contributes to your personal development. Criticizing is perceived negatively. However, in essence, it is about valuing. The more our level of awareness develops, the more control we become. Everyone takes out what is in their pocket. Some are stones, some are roses. You should not be afraid to ask for help. This could be a friend, someone you respect. If that didn't work either, we need to get professional support. If anger is accompanied by different psychological disorders, it is necessary to resolve them. Early diagnosis is at least as effective in the treatment of psychological disorders as it is in the treatment of cancer.
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