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Ways to Communicate Correctly with Your Child.
Parenting is actually an instinct. We instinctively take on the role of looking after, protecting and educating our child, but when our child is born, we see that our instinctive tendencies to raise children are not sufficient. For example, a baby who doesn't sleep at night or a 6-year-old child who throws a tantrum because he wasn't given what he wanted at the grocery store can challenge all of us.
We can't figure out what needs to be done with our instincts alone. We need to acquire and learn many new skills in order to properly meet our child's developmental needs. Self-education of parents also aims to provide them with the necessary skills in raising children and to teach them the healthiest approach to child development. The most important topic in this process is communication with the child. Here are the tricks of communication;
You Must Use Definitions!
✖ How many times will I tell you to flush the toilet after using the toilet?
✔The flush is not flushed.
You Should Use Messages!
✖ It's just a toy, so there's no need to get angry like that, you've exaggerated.
✔You're angry because your toy is broken.
Not the Child. You Should Talk to the Child!
✖ Put on your coat! Pick up your bag!
✔We're going out, where should you start getting ready?
You should use I Messages!
✖ You make things worse every time we go out, stop insisting and crying.
✔He gets upset when you insist on going out, and I can't hear you when you cry.
You must express it in one word!
✖ How many times will I tell you to put on your pajamas? You knew you promised to turn off the TV and put on your pajamas.
Again, you didn't keep your promise, you always do this.
✔My Son/Daughter is in your pajamas...
It means "Don't" You Should Say "Do" Instead!
✖ Don't put that pen in your hand on the table.
✔You can draw on this paper.
You Should Ask Open-Ended Questions!
✖ Did you like the place we went?
✔What excited you the most there?
You should use sentences that start communication!
✖ You say you don't know about everything. Doesn't know what it means Um, if you don't know, who will know?
✔Well, think about it, if you knew, what would be your answer?
You must gain solution skills!
✖ You can do it, you give up before even trying.
✔What do you need to do this? Or how would you do it if you could?
You Should Let Him Choose!
✖ That t-shirt is not on those trousers, let's change it immediately.
✔A blue t-shirt or a blue t-shirt? Do you think the yellow one would be more suitable for these trousers?
Qualified communication with your child will increase your quality of life.
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