Road, passenger and companion. We are all passengers on the path of life. During this journey, we want to share happiness and find a companion who will cure our troubles and carry the burden of life. The person we call a comrade is our spouse. Allah Almighty has created spouses for us from our own selves so that we can find peace with them.
The most important helpers of this peace are that men and women know their natures, have knowledge about the natures of the other party, and focus on understanding rather than being understood.
Knowing the nature of men and women reveals the 'I', and understanding each other by knowing their nature reveals the 'we'. As a matter of fact, Demir and Durmuş (2015) mention that when looking at the marriage perceptions of individuals who have been married for a long time, their perceptions of living together and establishing a home generally come to the fore rather than personal wishes and desires. Nowadays, people make the most mistakes about this issue. If we are women, we read and know about women's rights/behaviors; if we are men, we also read about men's rights/behaviors. This does not take us beyond defending against our spouse. We should realize that our differences make us a whole and try to understand our partner by directing our understanding to the characteristics of his creation.
Men and women are different by nature in terms of shape, understanding and perspective. Even though there are some feminine/masculine roles in both genders, this does not change the general and dominant characteristics. The importance of men and women researching each other's different aspects and acting accordingly comes into play here. While love is important for women, respect is more important for men. When a man receives respect and appreciation from his wife, he strives to be a better husband. Otherwise, no matter how much women love men, when there is no respect, men will not believe it. Love is as necessary for a woman as air and water. Women want to hear and feel loved. Although men do not need to talk much, they should listen and share with their partner to make them feel valuable. In the opposite case, the woman closes herself and her feelings to her partner. The man, on the other hand, is deprived of his wife's true feelings.
These differences are due to the marriage situation we are in. Isolating one of them does not mean keeping one superior to the other. Accepting each other as individuals, revealing our own personalities, and being in harmony with our spouse is the real meaning of marriage. Therefore, recognizing and accepting our different aspects is important for adaptation.
Although it is somewhat easy to learn the different aspects mentioned from various communication tools such as books and magazines, accepting them is challenging for individuals. Here, traces of the past, a fixed perspective on the events experienced, coming from the family, etc. Situations play an important role. Developing a positive perspective towards your spouse will be possible with open and effective communication. Communication will act as a magic wand in knowing that individuals who have stepped into a common life from two different lives may disagree and in balancing this between them. Paying attention to communication style, learning ways to talk without hurting each other when they are stuck, not showing sulking behavior will bring about the love and respect needed after trust in marriage.
The calligrapher wrote road, passenger and companion. One is incomplete without the other. .
And he added: “Look, this is a long road, you are also a traveler. You have a companion and he reflects you to yourself.
The moment you leave, you start to move forward. Even if you don't know the way, you will find your way with your companion.
Look, this is a long road, said the calligrapher. It is a long and difficult, long and difficult, long but beautiful road. If you have a companion who will be devoted to your path...
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