Confidence is a very important emotional necessity for all people. In fact, self-confidence is, in a sense, an indicator of how much we value ourselves and how valuable we find ourselves. In situations where we do not find ourselves valuable or feel worthless, we experience distress because our basic needs are not met.
One of the most important features that distinguish us from other living creatures is our awareness feature, that is, being aware of ourselves. From the first years of our lives, we create an identity for ourselves with the influence of various factors. We define who we are, then we decide on the features of this identity that we like or dislike, and this is where the problem of self-confidence begins. Disliking a feature of ourselves or rejecting some of our integral parts can cause our spiritual balance to be shaken. There may be situations in which each person sometimes trusts himself and sometimes does not.
In the development of self-confidence, the attitudes of parents and upbringing, especially in the first years of childhood, are important in the formation of the individual's feelings about himself and the degree of self-confidence. If one or both parents are overly critical and have high expectations, or are overprotective and inhibit independence, the child's feeling and judgment about himself is that he is incompetent, inadequate and worthless. However, if parents support the child's attempts, help him find the right one when he makes a mistake, and continue to love and accept him as he is, the child learns to accept himself, love himself and trust himself. Lack of self-confidence is often not a result of lack of talent, but a result of unrealistic expectations and criteria of others, especially parents, environment and society.
In fact, there are some ways to increase self-confidence. For example, look at the things you have already achieved, review your life to date. You may have come first in an important exam, you may have had an important role in a good team, you may have achieved the best sales rates, you may have made a significant difference in someone else's life, you may have developed a project that is very meaningful to you. Think about your strengths, what are your strengths and weaknesses compared to your life, your friends? Determine if it is eliminated. Think about what's important to you and where you want to go,think about what's really important to you next and what you aspire to achieve in life. Intentioning to achieve a goal and achieving it is the key, and that's where true self-confidence comes from.
Start organizing your mind. Recognize and change negative self-talk, your words are an extension of your thoughts. Try to learn to think realistically, try to recognize the distortions you create and get rid of them. Self-criticism from time to time also increases our self-confidence. Ask questions such as where did I make a mistake, where did I act right? Self-criticism is one of the biggest nourishers of self-confidence. Loving oneself makes one feel physically and emotionally strong. A person who loves himself is a person who is at peace with himself and his environment.
As a result, we may feel that we do not trust ourselves enough with our friends or family. There may be many things that lead to this. It is up to us to discover these, get to know ourselves better and start to trust ourselves more step by step.
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