Although playing games is often perceived as a waste of time for families, the game; It has a great contribution to the child's cognitive, emotional, social and physical development, attention skills, language development and psychology. Play is an important need for children. It provides support not only to the child, but also to families in getting to know their child. Because games give clues about the child's emotions, wishes and desires, fears and anxieties. Everything that cannot be expressed verbally comes to the surface through play. Children release the energy accumulated within them in this socially accepted way. Since the energy that cannot be expelled will begin to be expelled through aggression over time; Play is actually the best way to release energy.
In addition, when families observe their children during play, they also gain information about the child's psychology. For example, the frequent repetition of unpleasant situations and attitudes during play provides information to families about the child's psychological problems. It helps to recognize and analyze it.
A family that wants to communicate with its child should first play games with it. While this strengthens the bond and communication; It also improves the child's problem-solving ability. He notices the disturbing situations he often encounters during the game and looks for ways to change them. These disturbing situations are actually real problems not only in the game, but also in the child's daily life. What they analyze through play is what they analyze in real life. In this way, we can understand and know them better and communicate with them more easily and effectively. When families know these; They are aware that playing games with the child is not an activity done just to make them happy or to pass the time, and they know that it can contribute to the child's development and is a way to communicate effectively with them.
In addition, this is one of the most common complaints of families. One of the topics; The issue is that the child's interest in toys quickly ends. If all children have is toys, their interest quickly wears off. What a child needs is a playground before toys. The playground you set up for him is more than a doll or a car you give him. attracts more attention. Sometimes you don't even need to have a toy in the play area you set up with it. When he holds an object he created in his imagination, you do not need to see that object. For him, that object exists and is valuable. It attracts more attention than many toys. Give him a playground and your attention, not toys. Children sense who is really spending time with them and who is doing it sloppily.
Family attitudes during the game also determine the child's personality. For example; Tolerant and understanding families explain the reasons for the rules imposed on their children, use control when necessary, and avoid excessive restrictions. Children of these families are extroverted, original and creative. Dominant and overly authoritarian families set rules for their children without providing reason or justification and do not allow them to go beyond these rules. Children of these families become passive, introverted, vague and sometimes aggressive. There are more signs of aggression in children who are angry, scolded, hit or pushed. During the game played with the child; Be careful not to engage in a power struggle with the child, to make descriptive comments about the game and the situation, to encourage him to solve the problems on his own, and to show that you are truly interested in him and the game.
One of the biggest mistakes made in choosing toys is; “My child should not lack anything.” These are wrong toy choices made with this in mind. Multifunctional, complex and expensive toys have no effect on the child's development, they only make him happy. The more functional the toy is, the less work the child has to do and it disables the child's imagination. Toys should be bought not to keep the child entertained, but to develop his imagination.
There are also situations that families should pay attention to when it comes to games. For example; No matter what your age is, you need to make your child play effectively and efficiently. Usually the child does not want to finish the game. To take precautions against this, 10 minutes before finishing the game, tell him, "I will quit the game in 10 minutes." and when the time period you said has passed, “It's time for me to finish the game. “It was great fun playing games with you.” He does not see the objections while ending the game and leaving the room. Come from. During play, the child may throw, break or damage toys. Trying to prevent him in these situations causes him to exhibit more destructive behavior. That's why you can ignore his throwing and breaking situations, turn your head elsewhere and focus on a new toy. If the situation is so serious that you can't ignore it, "If you're going to throw away your toys, let's end the game." Finish the game with a sentence: Be defeated in most of your games with the child. Participate in it rather than restrict it. Make it a point to do this more often by asking your child what he or she enjoys doing most with you. Let him communicate with nature by letting him play not only inside the house but also outside. Think carefully when buying expensive toys for your children. If you do not let him play with the toy you bought in case he breaks it, both his joy and entrepreneurship will be limited. Let them help you with your work. And most importantly, take care to enjoy the time you spend with your child and spend productive time with him/her.
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