In recent years, we have been receiving so much divorce news that it seems like everyone is getting divorced. TÜİK statistics also confirm this. While the marriage rate decreases every year, the divorce rate increases. Divorce has become much easier. Time is a time of consumption and just as we consume everything else, we have started to consume love very quickly and see the end of love as a reason for divorce. However, there is one important thing we forget... If the couple has children, the end of love is not a sufficient reason...
It may not be right to continue the marriage for the sake of the children. But it's still a good reason. In recent years, we have often heard the words divorce for the sake of the children. It is said that it would be healthier for children to be away from fighting, noise, and an unhappy family environment, and that the child would be healthier and happier if his parents were separated. The devastating effect of divorce on the child has been ignored, but this devastating effect does not leave him even in adulthood. The impact of divorce harms children more than the death of a parent. Because in divorce, the child thinks that the mother or father left him/her willingly and was not preferred, which causes lack of self-confidence. The concept of family has lost its meaning for the child.
It is difficult to decide what will be best for our children when we are having problems in our relationships and are unhappy and dreaming of getting divorced and starting a new life. The easiest thought is to think that when I am happy, they will be happy too.
Even though the spouses have exhausted their love for each other, the children will still continue to love their parents and want both of them to be with them. Parents spend time and effort to minimize the trauma that divorce creates on the child, but it is impossible not to experience the trauma of losing someone you love and believe will always be with you while growing up.
So come and take a step for the sake of the children.
>First try to communicate with your spouse. Remember the last time you had a nice conversation alone or just talked about daily topics... And make time for this, do your best to spend time alone at least once a week. Chat for at least 20 minutes a day. Listen to the TV series or mobile phone just by looking into his eyes. Your life may be going through a very busy and troublesome period, and you may think that you will have more time after you get over this period, but that time may never come. Start now or you may regret it when you look back. There are arguments in every relationship, what is important is our attitude in these discussions. First of all, do not forget the topic and attack your spouse's personality. Do not generalize the topic of discussion. Do not use sentences that start with “You always…” or “You never…”. Do not open old chests. Learn how to get out of an argument. When you realize that winning is not as important as it seems, you should stand back and give your partner the opportunity to express his feelings. This way, the argument will be resolved faster and you won't remember why the argument broke out the next day. Forgive, be forgiving. When you forgive, you feel the pain, but you don't bury it inside and make it bigger. Make tomorrow independent from yesterday. Don't expect your spouse to be someone he or she cannot be. It is important to make time for your children, but do not forget how valuable it is to make time for each other. Sex is an important part of marriage, but it is not the measure of love. Life passes in such a rush that spouses may not be able to muster the strength to make love if it is not planned in advance. Even if you don't make love every time, you still make time for your emotions. Of course, you can make love without planning at all, but planning shows that you take your sexual relationship seriously. If you are having an extramarital relationship, you are away from all the responsibilities at home in this relationship, but you should remember this, when you divorce or leave home and start a life with your lover, after a while, mediocrity and responsibilities will surround your life again. There are times of crisis in every marriage. What is important is your attitude during these crisis periods.
When you make time for each other and start listening to each other, you will start to talk about your problems and find ways to solve these problems before they escalate. Do not try to offend or humiliate your spouse at every opportunity, or even do this at all, especially in front of others. Talk about your mistakes privately Don't make an effort just to criticize and be superior, spend your effort to increase your love.
''To date, no one has ever been heard to say, 'I wish I could devote more time to my work...' while on their death bed. ROB PARSONS "Your marriage for sixty minutes" Tonight, while your children are sleeping, go to their rooms and watch them for a while, remember the times you spent with them and think about how much they will need you in the future. Take the first step to reconsider your marriage and fix what's wrong.
FOR YOUR CHILDREN RIGHT NOW....
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