Every individual is different from each other, so children are also different from each other. However, being curious is a common feature of all of them. They want to learn, they want to research, they question. Some children can be calm in the process of being curious, they know their limits; Some children may have difficulty in this process. The reason for these difficulties is; Sometimes it is genetic, sometimes it is a temperament characteristic, and sometimes it is caused by the attitude of the mother and father. But they all have a solution and methods that make the process easier. The important thing in this process is to be aware, to be with you, to accept and to move forward together.
Children who have difficulties are, as you guessed, children with special situations (being restless, hyperactive or impulsive). During this process, children become tired or exhibit contrary behavior because they constantly receive negative reinforcement. Thus, it wears out on both sides. But if we think of the process and situation as giant waves; You can't run on the waves, you can't walk, you can't dive into them with your surfboard, you can better understand that we need to learn to move with giant waves. First of all, you must accept these characteristics of your child so that you can make your child aware of his own situation. The child who becomes aware also becomes aware of his own feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Thus, he understands the reason more quickly. However, in order for the child to gain awareness, parents must accept their child. acceptance behavior; It means accepting all kinds of feelings, all kinds of behaviors, all kinds of thoughts of the child without judging. The child who is accepted feels loved and loved; This means that the fuse has been lit for the change to begin. The process of acceptance and the child's understanding that he or she is accepted takes time. During the process of teaching your child to stop, you should never forget that you need to be patient.
As we move forward together; Increase the time you spend with your child and no one disturbs you. Don't be afraid to make your child feel that you love him and how valuable he is to you. In your individual times; Focus on your breathing, concentrate, try to get to know each other better, and then start your "CALM DOWN" activities. you can start. He must believe that you will listen to what is going on in his inner world without judging him. As you experience what you experience in your inner world; Ask questions, teach him to relax by breathing, make him focus on the moment rather than his goals, make him focus on his body and notice the changes in his body, teach him to discover his limits by catching the clues given by his body, explain how things are solved more easily when he turns his attention to a different direction... Acceptance, understanding and in moving forward together; you must trust your creativity; Drawing pictures of your emotions, applying dramas to show you how to deal with the emotions you feel like exploding, using colors to make sense of your emotions, dreaming to explain what your thoughts are, etc.
During your long journey, always remember to determine a pleasant route and be patient. I hope you keep it in a corner…
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