The word "toxic", which literally means harmful to health, poisonous, has recently appeared with the concept of "toxic relationship". Let's examine together the concept of toxic relationships, which is on the lips of many people?
The relationships we establish in our social environment can affect us positively and negatively. In short, relationships that make us feel bad, affect us negatively, reduce our self-confidence, make us blame ourselves for no reason, make us question our own value and make us feel worthless, and where we are constantly on guard with the thought that a problem will arise, are called "toxic relationships".
So, how do we know if a relationship is toxic? If one of the partners in that relationship constantly exhibits passive aggressive behavior, that is, if you think everything is going well and suddenly your partner starts to act cold towards you and tries to punish you in this way, this is an example of passive aggressive behavior, as I just said. If you think there is a problem between you and your partner and want to talk about it but it fails, you are in a toxic relationship. If you constantly need to explain something in a relationship, you cannot be happy by constantly trying to prove yourself in this relationship, and over time, you may start to lose your self-respect.
There are ups and downs in relationships over time. It can happen and this is very natural. But a relationship with too many ups and downs is not a healthy relationship. Relationships that are constantly lived in extremes are toxic relationships. If your partner is jokingly telling you that you should not misunderstand that this is normal by making jokes that can be considered a move on your character, you need to stop right there. Because these people are successful at putting emotional pressure on you and over time, they can humiliate you, make you feel angry and worthless.
If you are always anxious in the relationship and constantly on guard as if something is going to happen, this means It is also a sign of a toxic relationship. If you find yourself asking for permission from your partner under all circumstances and cannot act on your own decisions, you are not in a healthy relationship. It is the essence. In a healthy relationship, people do not need to ask permission from each other because they are individuals and can think logically and make mature decisions. If you hold each other tightly and are not open to changes, this can cause problems in the relationship. Finally, if you are constantly living an isolated life in a relationship, you cannot spend time with the people you love, if you only want to have them in your life, unfortunately you are in a toxic relationship.
So, what is this "real relationship" they call?
The person who is in a real relationship is the one who protects and lives his own self to the end. Because in this relationship, partners are in a state of constantly supporting each other. However you say it, no matter what you set out to achieve, that person is always with you. They are your biggest supporter in pursuing your dreams because they believe in your potential. Again, within this relationship, people can experience the feeling of being appreciated. When you help your partner, no matter what, they see how much effort and value you put into the relationship and they do not hesitate to thank you.
Generally, people in this relationship feel comfortable and safe next to their partners. People continue their relationships with mutual respect for each other and with the awareness that they are individuals. They always do everything they can to make you feel emotionally and physically safe.
You will never feel lonely in the relationship. The people in this relationship are there for you whenever you need them. They see you as a priority and act accordingly. You always feel beautiful in a relationship. These people never compare you with others. They always make nice comments about your clothing and when you are happy, they are happy too. And perhaps most importantly, if you feel like you are yourself in the relationship, if you act as you are thinking that he will not judge you, and if you do not act like someone you are not to impress him, this relationship is a real relationship. I wish him/her to have beautiful relationships in which he/she experiences respect and love to the fullest. with.
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