"While the expression of vulnerability and need brings people closer, the expression of anger pushes people away." says Greenberg and Johnson in their book Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I think, "How much vulnerability do we allow in love?" It's like it's saying the same thing: Be strong, be beautiful, be successful, be good, be weak...
The age we live in doesn't seem to allow us to let go of our defenses while always pursuing being the best. It doesn't seem to allow us to need anyone else.
However, what do Greenberg and Johnson say: Vulnerability brings us closer, whereas in love, vulnerability bends our necks, defenselessness makes us say "I need you" Vulnerability... vulnerability allows love... Without saying "I don't need anyone!" It allows us to get help... Vulnerability allows us to accept the truth and understand that we are not everything. Therefore, vulnerability allows us to integrate with the beloved.
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