Humans are the only creatures that need the most care among all mammals. The first organ that begins to form from the moment a human being falls into the womb and the last organ to complete its development is the brain. The brain and spinal cord begin to develop in the 4th week of pregnancy, a period that corresponds even before the baby's heartbeat. At birth, the number of brain cells is around 100 billion. There are important reasons why this condition, which is not seen in any living creature, is seen in humans.
The baby's interest in the outside world, which begins in the womb, continues to increase in parallel with brain development after birth. Studies have shown that babies are more interested in round objects in the first weeks. So what does this mean? Focusing on the human face. The baby is more interested in the people around him who care for him than you might think, especially in the faces of these people.
Father-daughter love begins with the child's transition to a threesome
The child's interest is more intense until the age of two and a half. While he is with his mother (the person who cares for him may be someone else), after the age of two he begins to be very interested in the presence of his father. If the child has completed his/her relationship with the mother in a healthy way up to this age, he/she has moved on to the next stage, which we call "triple relationship", in a healthy way and his/her interest in the father has started to be more than normal. This situation differs for girls and boys. While girls are just meeting the love of someone of the opposite sex and trying to discover it, boys realize that they have a same-sex person with whom they need to share their mother.
In the electral period, girls dream of marrying their fathers
They realize the genders of girls and boys. They are expected to exhibit behaviors that are socially and culturally appropriate to the roles of boys and girls. The most important feature of this period is curiosity and feeling of guilt. During this period when girls discover that their sexual identity and the father's sexual identity are different, they also realize that their mother and father are lovers. They fantasize about taking the place of the mother, who is close and dear to the father, and marrying her father. During this period, girls often hear the phrase "I will marry my father when I grow up". We comply. Since we do not have sexual feelings or physical desire for the opposite sex until adolescence, the child in this period tends to confuse father's love with love. Daughters who court their fathers, flirt with them, bring their father's slippers in front of them, turn their backs to their mothers, hug their fathers and sleep, expect the father to pay more attention to them than his mother.
Mother; father and daughter should be allowed to be lovers during this period
While daughters take care of their fathers, on the other hand, they know that the father belongs to the mother and they have intense feelings of guilt towards the mother. Daughters think that since the father chooses the mother, he must be like the mother. Another situation we often encounter during this period is that girls want to wear their mother's clothes, try on their high heels, and use their mother's lipsticks and make-up. Girls both discover their gender, which is the first step of their female identity, and go from their dreams of marrying their father to identifying with their mother. This period can be overcome in a healthy way with the mother's intervention in the relationships of her daughters and their fathers as little as possible during this period. For example, if a girl is playing with her father, her mother may perceive an intervention such as 'enough playing, it's time for breakfast' as a punishment by the mother who does not want the girl to have a relationship with her father, and her feelings of guilt may increase.
How does a father's love for his daughter occur?
When we look at it from the father's perspective, the father can unconsciously make his daughter a figure in his family. For example, he may compare his daughter to his mother, sister or aunt. In such a case, the father's feelings and behavior towards his daughter may be similar to the father's own childhood figure.
Women prefer men who resemble their fathers
When daughters become adult women, they look to their fathers. They are very likely to prefer similar men. This expression, which has been included in many song lyrics, idioms and proverbs, is expressed as follows in Nil Karaibrahimgil's song: 'it shouldn't take a day, let it be thirty, find one from the same father'.
Choosing a man similar to the father causes sexual problems
Women father fi When they marry men who look like them, they say that they had a very nice first period of their marriage. In the early days, the emotions experienced with the man, who unconsciously represents the father, are very high. Such a relationship begins with more childlike enthusiasm and excitement. After a while, it is possible that there may be intimacy problems and some sexual problems in the relationship.
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