The name of the period in which we see our lives passing by without us realizing it is childhood. This period is a process that everyone goes through, in which we are inexperienced and fallible towards life... It is also a period in which we accept everything that the culture has taught us while we are soft beings, from whose schemes we shape our stereotypes, to be afraid of our parents' fears, which we learned through trial and error....
Sooner or later, our children become acquainted with computers and the internet in this phase as a trial adventure. This adventure, which starts with innocent intentions, can turn into addiction at a speed that we cannot control and at the same time we never notice. At first, you could approve your child's fast computer use without realizing it. This technology, which is seen as a convenience in doing homework, evolves into internet addiction over time. We are also faced with illusions that seem like an advantage: a child sitting at home in front of a computer does not mess up the house, does not run around the house, does not constantly ask you questions. This provides parents with a secondary income, of course, we cannot deny this.
We cannot deny this: The child who is in reality is not aware of the here and now and cannot control time. Through digital games, they are exposed to child death and murder at an early age. While he is dying and killing in games on the internet, he does not feel anything, or rather cannot feel anything. This situation produces generations that are angry, reactive, merciless and do not feel emotionally blunt and do not understand the pain of the other. This situation involves not only the child himself but also the whole society over time.
This addiction has attracted the attention of experts recently and warnings are coming one after another. It started coming one after the other. The child, who tries to relieve his loneliness through a mechanical game, becomes trapped in a loneliness where he cannot establish a relationship with others or have existential contact with others. This feeling of loneliness, which deepens over time, alienates him from his peers outside. While the family loses its child right next to it, society also loses one of its members. Over time, while he meets the feeling of pleasure with digital games on the internet, he wants to disappear there. As a result, deep addictions arise.
In these games, new friendships are made. Meanwhile, playing digital games in a virtual group with school friends may be tolerable to some extent. Because there is already a one-to-one relationship there, they wanted to gather in the virtual environment and play games. This keeps the child in his room and away from his family. Time control and responsibilities at home provide an environment for a childhood that is not lived together with the family.
I was born in 1975, our childhood was spent in the neighborhood and at the top of the trees, on the neighbor's plum tree, perhaps we were lucky in this sense. We paid for some of its disadvantages by having difficulty using a computer, some of us still pay. Speaking for myself, I can say that I learned the digital world very hard and I am still cognitively distant from the virtual world. Some obligations can force people to learn.
Internet and computer addiction is handled a little differently than other addictions. While in all other addictions the object of addiction is eliminated and kept completely away, in this addiction it is essential to control and keep it under control.
It will not be appropriate to constantly criticize young people. In this sense, we warn parents and advise them to restrain themselves. The most important thing is to negotiate well and then make a compromise. Now there are games that cannot be won without playing for 6 hours. Just as you would make a contract to protect your own interests in a partnership, you can sign a contract at a time agreed upon by both parties. If it is a game, it would be more functional to make a deal on a weekly basis. If there is an addiction to a situation such as chat, then it would be more appropriate to make a daily deal. The complaint we hear from families here is that we are tired of going and checking. Then I say this: If your child had a fever, wouldn't you go and measure his temperature or would you leave it uncontrolled? The child cannot control himself, of course you may feel tired. So, let's say you have the time at home under control, what should you do if your child goes to the internet cafe secretly from you and spends time there? I should especially point out that this may go beyond the scope of addiction. Because a kid who lies to you and doesn't want to be home This means that most people have much deeper and more serious problems than internet addiction. This addiction is not a problem but just a symptom. The key concept here is control. Parents often find solutions such as dismantling it and taking it somewhere, but no matter how long the time is, eventually the computer comes back to the internet. Therefore, it would be better to make decisions that you can implement.
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