Vaginismus is a disease of postponement and avoidance. Yes, it is a disease; Because the penis cannot enter the vagina while no functional problems are expected. Vaginismus is a disease in which a person believes that he or she is completely helpless, inadequate, guilty and hopeless. Vaginismus is the nightmare of a woman who obsessively believes that she cannot succeed. Vaginismus is not only the absence of penis-vaginal union, but also a feeling of contraction throughout the body, fear, anxiety, anxiety, panic, nausea, disgust and retching; It is a disease in which the person closes his legs and pushes his partner with his hand. The self-protection effort of a person who believes that the hymen is thick and the vagina is narrow and that the hymen will burst, tear and bleed during intercourse is called vaginismus. Yes, vaginismus is actually a woman's self-protection mechanism. No one wants to eat a bowl of ice cream with glass pieces in it, right?
Contractions that cannot be controlled "involuntarily" with thoughts of what if it hurts, what if it bleeds, what if something happens when it enters, occur, the control of these contractions is unconscious. For this reason, a woman cannot control these muscles even though she wants it very much, knows everything, reads everything written and desires her partner. This primitive fear reflex of the body is called vaginismus.
Vaginismus is a disease in which the contractions perceived by the client seem to narrow the vagina, the vagina hardens and the entrance to the vagina is closed and it is perceived as impossible. Of course, other muscle groups are also added to the contraction of the entrance muscles. The person expresses this as tightness of the chest, shortness of breath and tension of the whole body.
Vaginismu is a disease in which everything goes very well until the moment of intercourse comes to mind, but even when the penis attempts to approach the vagina, the lighting of the entire building is turned off. s. Because the person does not know that the vagina actually prepares itself for the penis, expands, stretches and gets wet. Some women believe their vaginas are too narrow for a penis to enter. However, the function of the vagina is to contain the penis and continue reproduction. In the absence of a physical problem, every organ should be able to do its job easily, right?
There is a little girl inside every client, and that girl has been given very wrong information about sexuality so far. While the girl is brought up saying "Close your skirt, your legs will be visible", over time she learns to completely cover up her sexuality. Think of it like this: you have a hundred-storey skyscraper, but you have lowered the condition and you cannot even open the door yourself. You have been living unaware of this place for years, you believed that the way to protect your honor was to ignore this place, and you succeeded. While you haven't even had an idea about the skyscraper until today, you have been told that you need to provide electricity to all floors on the day of your wedding. What's the result? Can you invite guests there when you don't know how to open the door, use the elevator, go up to the floors and have no idea what is there or what it is like? NO. This answer is called vaginismus. The woman says; “No, I don't want to, I won't open it.” Because it is the most valuable thing; Her honour, her virginity, her pure girlish soul that she has preserved for years... She begins to struggle not to lose these, and begins the process of causing pain to herself and those around her.
Women with vaginismus say that there is a wall there when they try to have a relationship, and the penis feels this wall. At the beginning of marriage, both men and women are motivated. Attempts are made, but over time, both parties begin to avoid it, and the vaginismus problem is accompanied by erection problems and sexual reluctance. In fact, consequences such as family pressure, blaming the woman, and the end of the marriage are also encountered.
Vaginismus is not a disease that will go away over time. Due to the nature of the disease, treatment is desired to be postponed, but this will only damage the relationship.
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