Whether you're dating or married, you're in luck if your relationship is a source of peace and happiness rather than stress. Where the marriage path or relationships, which are mostly made to be even happier together, become the source of problems after a while, where people feed each other, grow and contribute to their maturation; I wrote this article because I witnessed that they devour each other. Alright; What do couples who have built their relationships on solid foundations do differently from others? Is there a recipe for happy relationships? If you want to increase the satisfaction in your relationship, you can evaluate your relationship within the framework of the following nine items supported by research results, and think more about what you need to improve from these topics.
Happy couples trust each other first and foremost.
Trust is like the ground on which we set our feet and is indispensable for relationships. In fact, the root of jealousy lies here. If there is no trust in the relationship, you will constantly try to control the behavior of the other party, which is both very tiring and you can never be sure that you have one hundred percent control. Checking your partner's phone, social media accounts, constantly asking where and who they are with is an indication that there is no trust in your relationship. If you have problems with trust in your relationship, the solution is not to try to control your partner, but to face the existing insecurity, understand where it comes from, and put the relationship on a ground of trust. Happy couples do not engage in any action that will harm their loyalty to each other, and they do not engage in any speech or behavior that they can hide from their partner, whether in real or virtual environment. They do not experience any hesitation in terms of trust, and they do not let them live. They stay in the moment in their arguments, they do not resurface a fight that took place three years ago and deepen the conflict. their general attitudes towards each other, knowingly or that they will not intentionally harm each other. For this reason, in case of any disagreement, they care about the explanation of the other party, and they do not ignore the option that they may have misunderstood. These individuals intend to stay in the relationship, do not consider the option to break up at the slightest argument, and their eyes are not out. Their basic understanding of the relationship may be problematic from time to time; however, these problems can be overcome with mutual goodwill.
They respect each other's boundaries.
In other words, they can distinguish between the areas where they are us and the areas where they are me. They realize that a relationship or marriage is not a mortgage against the will of the other party, that they do not have to agree on everything or do everything together. As they act with the consciousness of us and do many things together, they also act as "me" from time to time and allow each other freedom in matters related to different areas of interest. They accept that they may have various aspects that differ from each other.
They communicate openly.
They do not give each other implicit messages by implication or sarcasm. If they have a problem in any matter, they expect the other party to understand it, and when they do not understand it by themselves, they do not make the problem more complicated. Whatever the problem they are having, they express it honestly to their partner. They can comfortably say whatever hurt, upset or hurt they are experiencing. While doing this, instead of using an accusatory language such as you are such an inferior, so callous, they tell the other party how the situation they are uncomfortable with makes them feel. In addition, in their attitude towards their partner, they do not position themselves above and give insulting messages such as "What do you know about this, you can't handle it".
5.They know how to take heart
p>After the occasional conflicts in the relationship, it is very important how couples go about repairing it. Happy couples don't magnify conflicts, and when they make any mistakes, they're good for their partner in a way that pleases them. They try to make up for the problem by trying to prevent it. Because as long as people do not try to find solutions, existing problems will not be solved by themselves. Happy couples are aware of the fact that emotions are the fuel of the relationship, just as the fuel of the car is gasoline, and they know how important the feelings of love and commitment that exist between them are for the relationship.
6.Spend quality time together.
When they are side by side, they do not get bored of each other and try to flee to separate corners as soon as possible. As a result of their common interests, they do various activities together. They enjoy each other's conversation and manage to laugh and have fun together. When one of the couples has a problem or has difficulties, the other partner becomes the safe base on which he rests. They try to overcome difficult times with the support they offer each other. “Let's experience the beauties of the relationship together; but when there is a difficulty, it is your own difficulty, you struggle alone. Whatever the problem is, material or spiritual, they know how to fight it by sticking together.
7. They share the responsibilities of daily life.
Life is really hard, economic When worries and rushes are added and issues such as food, ironing, laundry, children's responsibility and education are added, things become too complicated for one person to cope with alone. It is very important not to be selfish in a relationship, to take care of the other's needs and to try to understand him. For this reason, whoever lives in the same house should do their share in daily work or household responsibilities, and there should be a fair share in this regard. Some jobs are less for two but more for one. That's why sharing responsibilities is also very important.
8. They are aware of the importance of sexuality.
Another feature of happy couples is that they keep the sexual attraction and passion alive. These couples do not use sexuality as a trump card to the other side, and do not make sexual issues a bargaining tool for other problems in the relationship; mutually letting themselves go with the flow and giving them the moments shared together as a gift they know.
9. They are attentive and sensitive towards their partner.
We know that having a relationship brings with it self-sacrifice. Couples who are truly committed and happy to each other care about their partner's happiness as much as they care about their own happiness and satisfaction in the relationship, and they know how to add new things to the beauties experienced in the relationship by making various surprises and gestures towards him on the subjects he likes and enjoys. Relationship or marriage grows, develops and becomes more meaningful as long as new beauties are added to it. Otherwise, if we want to say "I don't move from where I stand, I never face my responsibilities regarding the problems experienced, but our relationship will work itself out", unfortunately, this will not be possible. In addition, happy couples adapt flexibly to the new forms that they will enter into the relationship with the passing of time. By this I mean, their ability to adapt to new situations such as having children, starting school or moving to another city is high.
I think that each of the nine items I have listed here is at least as important as the other. If you want to do something about your relationship, you can improve the quality of your relationship by thinking more about what you are missing from these items. I wish everyone a healthy day.
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