How to Be a Consistent Parent?

When most couples find themselves in conflict (whether it's a brief squabble, screaming, or stony silence), both parties are primed to win the battle. They become so focused on how hurt they are, on proving that they are right and their partner is wrong, or on maintaining the standoff that communication between them may become conflictual or cease completely. At this point, couple and family therapy support is needed in order to develop skills such as listening to each other's point of view calmly and compassionately, leading couples to find conciliatory solutions and regaining their peaceful marriage, preventing communication conflicts, problem solving and learning how to fight without hurting too much.

What Issues Can Couple and Family Therapy Help With?

The topics we work on in our sessions with Couples and Families are generally; communication difficulties they experience, conflicts and arguments, pre-marriage concerns, adjustment problems, trust problems, unresolved issues related to the past, problems arising from the couples' families, indecision about the course of the relationship, problems related to intimacy, anger management, jealousy, cheating, separation/divorce, problems at home. It consists of a number of issues such as responsibilities and duties, having children, raising children, and sexual problems.

WHY IS HAPPY MARRIAGE IMPORTANT?

Getting Couple and Family therapy. There is no need to be in an unhappy marriage. Many couples with happy marriages can also apply for couple therapy in order to further improve their relationship or prevent problems that may arise.

A conflictual relationship leaves very negative effects on couples. For example; It can cause problems such as anxiety, high levels of tension and depression. Thanks to the work of researchers, we now know that happy couples live longer and healthier lives than divorced or unhappy couples. When a marriage becomes sour, spouses are not the only ones who suffer; Children also suffer. Research shows that behavioral problems and emotional problems are more common in children exposed to conflict between parents. is terminating. In order to treat a psychological or psychiatric problem in children, the problems in the parents' marriage must be eliminated. The harmony and disharmony experienced in the family affects children's social relationships as well as their inner life. Children take their parents as models in communicating and problem solving. In order to make children healthy and happy, it is necessary to make the marriage healthy and happy. In cases where it is not possible to make the marriage healthy, it is not wise to continue a bad marriage for the sake of children. Raising a child in a home where parents are hostile to each other is very harmful. “A peaceful divorce is better than a war-like marriage.”

As Couple and Family therapists, what we do in therapy is not to change people, but to help their personal development and bring innovations. "Personality; It is the totality of our emotions, thoughts and behaviors, and a person develops and changes until he dies. In our sessions, couples change themselves when they realize how their own personalities, faulty communication styles, and expression styles reflect on their relationships and see that they can correct that reflected relationship. It is very important to get Couple and Family therapy help in order for couples to see that the solutions and changes in therapy will not be entirely related to the methods applied by the therapist, but to the changes they make in their own behavior and to increase the sense of confidence in their lives.