1. Class or Kindergarten? How Should We Make This Decision?
Although age is a determining criterion for starting primary school, it is not sufficient. So what should we pay attention to?
The Child's Own Readiness
The child's own physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual readiness is very important for starting primary school. It would be wrong to evaluate two children of the same age based solely on their age component. Individual evaluations need to be made because each child learns at his own pace. Again, it would be wrong to make a comparison at this point.
Whether or not there is previous school experience
It would not be right to evaluate a child who has school experience in the same way as a child who is starting for the first time. The importance of preschool education is an inevitable fact. Even though parents support themselves at home, it is very important for children to exist alone in the social environment. It is important for their social and cognitive development that they experience sharing, expressing themselves and their needs, and existing in a group.
Assessment Scales
As a result of this test, children's mental, physiological and psychological structure is evaluated. This evaluation gives us information about your child's readiness and level of maturity required for school.
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It determines your child's comprehension, listening, interpretation, writing and basic mathematics skills.
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It detects pencil holding, writing motivations and basic mathematical skills.
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It also detects attention deficit, hyperactivity, impulsivity, learning difficulties, if any. It also provides important data to detect vision and hearing problems.
When choosing a class, a decision should be made in line with all these components.
Children. Why Cry?
Of course, children can cry for many different reasons. Most fundamentally, when their linguistic development is not yet complete, not being able to express themselves creates great stress in their bodies, and they respond by crying when their physical needs are not met. However, children may cry for various reasons even when their linguistic development is complete.
So, let's think first,
Is crying a bad thing?
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How do you react when your baby/child cries?
How do we, as adults, feel after crying?
Of course, crying is not a bad thing. Just as we relax and relieve stress when we laugh, the body also relaxes after crying. This is also the case for children. Sometimes, even if all their needs are met, they may cry for no reason.
So how should we react in these moments?
If all their needs are met but they still continue to cry, you should be with the child by letting him cry. When the child is left with all compassion and warmth and allowed to cry, this will provide relief to the body.
The point here is not to leave the child alone while crying. This damages the bond established between the parent and the child.
Generally, when the child cries, ways are sought to silence him by distracting him with different things, but here, even if the child remains silent, he has not been able to relieve the stress and will probably cry again at the first opportunity.
When Children Cry. Destructive Behaviors
Ignoring and ignoring the child while he is crying.
Sending him to his room alone.
Punishing him for crying.
Trying to silence someone by shouting.
Destructive Sentences
What's there to cry about?!
You've become a big brother/sister, don't cry anymore.
Babies. He cries.
You are a man, don't cry like a girl.
These are behaviors and statements that are frequently made in daily life without realizing it. However, these directly harm and negatively affect the child's self. A perception of worthlessness and inadequacy occurs. When he is not allowed to experience his emotion and is faced with a critical attitude, he tries to suppress crying by force. As a result, completely different problems may arise in the future; nail biting, aggressive behavior, anger problems, bedwetting, etc.
Giving positive feedback to a child who normally expresses his wishes by crying when he wants something without crying, such as "I understand you much better when you say it this way" will reinforce the behavior.
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Actually, it's not just about crying. Here, we also contribute to the development of emotional intelligence by allowing the child to experience his/her emotions.
Setting Limits for Children
Tone of Voice should be the same as the speaking voice. A high volume creates a feeling of punishment.
Making eye contact and speaking tactfully.
Giving instructions or asking thought-provoking questions instead of asking Yes-No questions.
Determined. and expressing it politely while being clear.
Being consistent within the boundaries set. Parents should have a common language.
Parent's understanding and reflection of his/her feelings from a leading place makes the child feel understood.
And is this limit really necessary?
For example; The child who has not left the house for a week is jumping on the top of the couch because he needs exercise. The need must be met first.
Remember, the goal is not to punish, but to set boundaries in a positive way
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