My son is 6 years old, he has been going to nursery since he was 4 years old, but he is very stubborn, so I cannot change it to white if it is white, or black if it is black. When he has a brother, it gets worse and he harms his brother, climbs on top of him and lies on top of him. I don't know how to act now, my psychology is broken. What are your suggestions?
ANSWER:
I am commenting based on a single symptom, you should consider these as only common possibilities.
Look at the environments in which stubbornness is concentrated and its duration
It is important to know whether it is an attitude that only occurs from time to time or has it always existed, and at what level in the school environment. If the child who only exhibits these behaviors towards his/her siblings and parents at home does not behave this way in other environments, it is considered more of a boundary and rule problem. If the child is very stubborn and stubborn, both at home, on the street, and at school, this may be an indication of an impulse control problem. IT IS IMPORTANT.
It is important to understand the impulses and emotions that cause the child to be clingy and stubborn. Being understood causes everyone to soften and become more cooperative.
Understanding him does not mean allowing, compromising, or approving.
Understanding his feelings and the situation he is in does not require making concessions. I see that you want to do this, but….
Explaining the reasons for the rules you set
We understand his feeling, but if the request is not reasonable and logical, explaining with REASONS that we will not do it will make it easier for the child to accept it.
It is important to act CONSISTENTLY and FAIRLY
When you do not allow the behavior, supporting it in every environment and by every individual makes it easier for the child to receive the MESSAGE about boundaries.
Mother and improve your fatherhood skills
These are simple basic techniques, but there are many other behavioral techniques that can be used as well. Taking parenting training, attending courses and reading books will improve your skills.
If other symptoms accompany stubbornness, you should consult a specialist
We have said all of these. If you say you are doing it but you can't get over it, and there are symptoms such as mobility, attention problems, fidgeting and irritability, this may be an indicator of a disorder. Proper treatments started at an early age can help your child become a more harmonious, happier individual at an early age and shape his basic behaviors correctly.
If your child has some of the conditions described here, you should seriously consider applying to a specialist.
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