Prepare what you are going to speak and stick to it
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Make sure that the speech is balanced and that both parties have time to express themselves. It is important that you express that this is your joint decision so that the child does not take sides.
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Try to have the conversation calmly and in control. Children easily sense our emotions and are affected. Your anxiety will make the child more anxious.
Use books
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Written to explain the divorce process There are many children's books available.
Don't Force a Choice
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Forcing the child to make a choice in this process, Waiting for him to make a decision will have negative consequences. Having to choose one of the parents will increase the child's anxiety.
Explain Why
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Especially young children Being self-centered, they think that everything is because of and for them. During the divorce process, the child may see the divorce as a result of his own mistake and blame himself. It should be clearly explained to the child that the divorce is not due to anything the child did.
Avoid giving the child heavy burdens and roles
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'you are now the man of the house' It is important to avoid imposing big roles and responsibilities on the child, such as 'you should support your mother', 'you should not leave her alone', etc.
Share your feelings
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It is important to provide a safe environment where the child can talk about their experiences and feelings during the divorce process. You can encourage them to talk about their feelings with sentences such as "We know you're sorry we're getting divorced. It's normal for you to feel this way right now." >Ask be prepared for the occasion
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Your child may ask many questions to understand and overcome this process, and may even repeat the same question over and over again. It is important to answer questions as sincerely and clearly as possible.
Try to stick to your routine
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In your life Instead of focusing on what will change, talk about what will stay the same.
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Knowing that her daily life will continue as before will allow her to feel good and safe.
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Take care not to make changes such as school, change of caregivers, breastfeeding, toilet training during this process as much as possible.
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Children may go through many emotional processes such as regression to infancy, fear, anxiety, incontinence, changes in sleep and appetite during such change processes. As a parent, it is important to be prepared for these processes and to seek expert support when necessary.
Take time
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Understanding and overcoming this process can take time for both you and your child. Give yourself and your child time.
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