In this era, the effort to understand the human soul turns into a kind of "clock regulating institute" work. No matter how seriously you take your job, your work is often outdated.
Of course, there is basic knowledge, theory and scientific data about humans, but while you are putting forward an idea, a new update changes its presentation and framework, if not the information. For this reason, as the age passes rapidly, you may be out of the agenda by seconds and out of the game by hours. This is exactly why this era is so sad. You have to keep your eyes and ears open and focus on the point you are dealing with in order to make sense of what is human. Recent events that have come to the fore on social media and shaken the agenda make me think about this. Even though our beliefs about humanity do not change, your ideas are updated. It is necessary to allow this flow.
Leaving aside its usage area, let's start with the brush that caused a diplomatic crisis. Let's leave aside the size of the matter, whether on a diplomatic level or in terms of its impact on the masses. Let's focus on the processes behind the motivation of the famous national football player Emre Belözoğlu to extend his brush. This event may seem very unusual in terms of domain, but it is not. The period we are in actually gives all of us the opportunity to wave a brush, stick or even a machete at someone. In our own social media accounts, we dress others, undress others, and show mercy whenever we want, almost every day. But of course, our expressions are a miniaturized version of the event in symbolic form. Maybe this man threw the brush into his bag the night before. He tried to sleep at night with the tension of doing something risky, and the next day he went to the private field. Or maybe he found it in the sink at the last minute, thought it was a prank and put his stick in the mix. We don't know this, but what we do know is that this person has demonstrated a more visible and significant action than the posts posted from locked accounts. This is a kind of exhibitionism. The desire to be visible, the desire to attract attention as a target for someone's poisonous arrows while being approved by someone. What I want to point out at this point is this. The grandiose and exhibitionist attitude of this man who suddenly entered our lives is not unique to him, it is a part of human nature. As we all develop, we experience periodic changes at certain ages. We experience these grandiose exhibitionist states. But theoretically, if these needs are met consistently, we develop a healthy and whole self and do not carry it into our adult lives at this level. Considering that everyone's spiritual development is not completed to the ideal extent, it can be understood why this man, and not you, needs a full-screen show.
Another event that makes us think again about the human soul - warning - is the first match of the Tottenham-Liverpool match in the Champions League Final. A woman named Kinsey Wolanski, who jumped onto the field in her swimsuit at halftime. Wolanski says that not only did she gain tens of thousands of followers after taking this action, but it also allowed her to find a job. So this time there is a more obvious secondary gain. It doesn't matter whether it is instantaneous or planned, the woman who says "I am here, I am different from billions of people, see me, get excited with me" takes things one step further. Because this is an age where exhibitionism, surveillance, and being in the spotlight are highly prized. This full screen not only brings the visual material to millions of screens, but also benefits it. We don't know if this was something he made a calculation for, but we know that the intellectual processes and decision-making mechanisms that cause a behavior will be affected by our desires and needs. In this context, let's think about the situation we call selfie craze. There is a strong belief that taking a lot of selfies and posting them on social media is a mental disorder. Rather than approaching it as a diagnostic category, I think it is very related to the self-processes I have tried to talk about so far. So, is sharing selfies just an expression of desire and need, or does the person also gain secondary benefits in this way? I say absolutely yes. This does not necessarily have to be a financial gain. To say "I'm here" to the social network he doesn't meet, to say "I'm in a bad mood today, understand me", to say "my financial conditions are like this, define my status accordingly"... In short, even to be visible according to the environment and context requires a cognitive process beyond exhibitionist desires.
Finally, an example of the expression of what is already "visible": Dear Melek Mosso's "open up, open up" outburst. This is a grandiose self or exhibitionist class. It doesn't mean that I disapprove of the artist's behavior. But in terms of content, it complements what we have talked about so far very well and also makes an important addition. Namely, we might not have been able to learn Melek Mosso's opinion about women's clothing if she had not expressed it. But he did, and although it's not exhibitionist, it's an expression. Although the expression of an idea or belief might not make everyone happy, it would not create as much turmoil as it is now. But what is involved is not an interview, but a stage show, and there is a clear and even pointed outburst. At this point, the artist's purpose is not just to reveal his idea. What he needs is more than self-expression. As I understand it, he is saying: this social issue is also my issue and I have a desire to express it in the most visible way. Exactly here we are faced with the secondary gain situation that we mentioned in the previous examples. As an artist, Melek Mosso uses exhibitionism to invite the masses to a showdown. For myself, I can associate the fact that people who have the capacity to influence the masses are visible and stand out by taking the risk of being noticed, with a mature self. Because there is a political stance belonging to a holistic entity in what is exhibited.
We have underlined a grandiose, exhibitionist desire for all the examples we have discussed here. But, as we said, this is on the same spectrum as our needs to be seen, noticed and approved, which can rise in all of us from time to time. If I'm not mistaken, a young woman recently published a photo of herself and her partner, half-naked. Maybe this young woman had shared a few selfies before, and as a person who did not really desire to be in the public eye, she might have exposed her private parts out of a momentary and impulsive need. In short, there is not a very thick line between being exposed and being exposed. While meeting people's mirroring needs, we are actually mirroring ourselves. This process is not one-sided. This is an age that fosters browsing, eye-gazing, and eye-popping. For this reason, in our effort to understand the human psyche, it is necessary to go beyond diagnostic or clinical descriptions reduced to the individual.
Because it is not only the psychopathology of the exhibitionist that is involved, but also the developmental processes, socio-cultural influences and needs behind it. Likewise, as long as he does not turn his head towards what is shown, Ren also has the same processes. On top of that, there are sociopolitical dynamics that determine the relationship between the signifier and the seer (see: brush). For this reason, as people interested in psychology, we become involved in the agenda at some point, even if we do not want to, and we try to convey our updates with columns like this whenever we have the opportunity.
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