Love based on success does harm!
It's almost time for the semester break, students are experiencing report card excitement. Experts warn parents about "report card reaction": "Excessive criticism and humiliation should be avoided when evaluating the report card." Experts state that love based on success harms the child and say, "A child who is loved only because he is well-behaved and successful learns that the only condition for being loved by others is success."
Heavy criticism and humiliation are harmful. gives
The excessive criticism and humiliation we often see in success-oriented parents negatively affects the mental health of children and young people. It can cause especially young people in the "adolescence" period to have conflicts with their parents and family members to become estranged from each other.
Do not label your child!
Whatever the outcome of the report card is. Noting that parents should not overreact, no matter what, and label their child as "Nothing will happen to you, you are a failure", Barlas said, "Not only should one not overdo it in the face of report cards that are not good enough, but also should not overdo it in response to report cards that are described as good by the mother and father. It is important not to buy gifts. An encouraging sentence, a small gift or a family outing will be enough to reward the individual.
Love based on success causes harm
No mothers and fathers They must love their children regardless of condition and show this love verbally or behaviorally in a not excessive dose. It is important that you love the child not because he is successful, resourceful or talented, but simply for who he is. A child who is loved simply because he is well-behaved and successful learns that the only condition for being loved by others is success. This situation causes the person to feel worthless and unimportant in the following years and causes many psychiatric diseases.
Report card results should be evaluated together
The child's lack of attention, emotional distress throughout the year. Health problems, risky relationships with friends, family problems or a psychological disorder may have caused this situation. The attention deficit factor, which is usually revealed as a result of a good and comprehensive clinical screening, causes many students to perform below expectations. Instead of focusing on report card results, parents should observe their children closely and try to understand the processes that the child and the family go through throughout the school year. It is also important to seek professional help when necessary.
Every child is special
Every child is special and may have his or her own developed skills. While some children may have advanced skills in math, others may have advanced skills in athletics. All skills of the child should be observed from an early age, and small interventions should be made for the skills that need support. It should also be supported in terms of better developed skills.
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