Antoine Bret: "The first breath of love is the last breath of reason."
Nothing is the same anymore. The center of your being has suddenly shifted. Your priorities; Your family, work, or school may no longer come first as before. Instead of regretting your endless work, you find yourself humming your favorite melodies. That gloomy road you always walk is now more beautiful. The sun warms you even more. The stars are brighter, but only for you. At one moment you are strong enough to be the most courageous person in the world, and sometimes you are timid and fragile like a little girl. Your world is rosy.
The name of this rosy, wonderful state is actually our need to be loved. What is sought in love is not just love and happiness. It is also our longing for a state of spiritual fulfillment and wholeness. Because love gives us a feeling of completion and makes us think that the missing part of us is now with us. Love is like a puzzle in this sense. The pieces first fall into place with him, and then they are completed with him.
When a person meets this need to be loved, he believes that the wounds he has received until that day are healed, his feeling of insecurity turns into trust, and perhaps he meets his soul mate. He is trying to heal his wounds from the past with the presence of another person. Actually saying "I Love You" means "I want you to love me". Because the thought of someone loving us makes us forget our shortcomings. It makes us feel complete and whole.
For some people, it is difficult to let the wounds caused by past love heal. Since it carries traces of the past, it becomes difficult for one to be happy in a new relationship. In discussions, a person always finds himself in inextricable vortices by going back to the beginning and making comparisons with the past. This situation increases his unhappiness and disappointment more and more each day. Neither she nor the third person in her new relationship, which she started with great hopes, is happy...
Another group chooses partners similar to their mothers and fathers, with whom they cannot reach a compromise and with whom they have problems. Their aim is to try to compensate and fix the bad relationship in the past with someone new but similar to them. this solution Maybe these are the steps taken to prevent the suffering and troubles from being experienced again. What they do is, in a way, an attempt to guarantee ourselves.
In conclusion, love consists of an effort to find the other side of ourselves that is missing. Bad aspects are always wanted to be compensated for by someone new. The idea of being able to change the past and enjoy the present is pleasant to all people suffering from this problem. That's why he looks for ways to complete himself and feel happy again. Unfortunately, the person who is in love is a being who is tested with his effort to be happy and is tested by separation.
Bailey: "Love is created from the sweetest happiness and deepest pain in the world."
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