The concept of self-compassion is the bond of love between a person and himself, and it is our ability to direct understanding, unconditional acceptance and mature love towards ourselves. It means showing oneself the support, understanding and compassion that one needs, knowing how to support oneself in a difficult moment, and silencing the voice of the cruel, judgmental part within oneself. When we notice a side of ourselves that we do not like, instead of judging ourselves, we try to understand this side of ourselves and show a supportive approach. Self-compassion is recognizing the situation we are in with a sincere and sincere approach to ourselves, rather than ignoring or suppressing our own pain. Knowing that pain is a temporary guest for us and that it will go away after hosting it for a while, it means accepting to live with sad feelings for a while and being able to let go of pain and sadness when the time comes with the new wisdom we have learned from pain.
There is a close connection between consciousness and emotional intelligence. Consciousness includes the concepts of being logical, emotional, and wise. Our emotional schemas are our emotional reactions in line with the information we believed to be true without questioning in our past lives. People who act with an emotional schema only seek to be right and react automatically. Because he believes in the accuracy of this information without questioning and looks at the events he experiences only from this window. Automatic reactions given without questioning are like autopilots used to keep planes on the same route. Responses from autopilot are also avoidant. While avoidance makes people sick, acceptance is healing. Being addicted to pain means constantly keeping it in the mind and making it a home among the thoughts in the mind. Being sad, angry, blaming means holding on to the path we know. Acceptance means being understanding, open and accepting things as they are. When acceptance emerges, a flexible attitude towards inner experiences also emerges. Negative emotions are trying to tell us something. Once you understand what they are saying, letting them walk away makes acceptance easier. The opposite of judging is accepting. Everything we accept automatically leaves the mind after a while. However, every situation we resist is permanent. It is possible. Acceptance means acting with emotions and trying to understand the language of emotions. Resisting and ignoring emotions is like sailing against the wind. It makes permanent the situations we avoid and fear. Accepting means understanding the past that we cannot change and realizing and perceiving the message it gives us. Look, see, question and accept! Active acceptance means accepting the things we cannot change, and it is done actively and consciously. We determine our destiny with our own words. Every choice made creates a chain reaction. Taking responsibility and making choices with those responsibilities means getting behind the wheel of life. Questioning and trying to understand is the first step towards a solution and makes us realize the solution. Internalizing the problems causes the problems to grow further. Although our childhood and family legacy is the fateful part of our life story, it is in our hands to rewrite a positive story.
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