The first half of the 2019-2020 academic year is ending. We have come to a time when those who wait with excitement for report card day are replaced by those who wait with "anxiety". Because children are included in a "race" from the moment they are born. The importance of success outweighs all other characteristics and values of the child. Yes, the world is growing, developing and becoming different. As parents, you want to prepare your children for the developing world and you have no bad intentions. But we may need to change the path followed and the method chosen. We can start by fitting report card psychology and perception into a correct framework.
In good report cards, appreciating the individual will be enough. All the student has to do is study and get the grade he deserves. Therefore, buying expensive gifts may be a wrong feedback. The child may think that he must constantly study for financial and great rewards. In order to continue the same success and not lose the habit of studying; In addition to resting during the holiday, one can also continue to study in a planned manner.
The most important part is how to approach children who bring bad report cards. In this case, I would like to ask parents who overreact to look at the difference between their expectations and their children's potential. Unless you have realistic expectations, you may experience constant disappointment.
The child's report card may be weak and may not bring the results you expected. In this case, two questions are very important: WHY? And HOW?
-WHY? Why did my child get low grades?
-HOW? How can we change these results together?
A mid-term break, which turns into an opportunity to investigate the social and cognitive causes of the problem and to prepare for the second term, will be more productive.
What to do in case of a bad report card;
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If you are angry, speak not at that moment, but after a few hours,
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Do not use humiliating or embarrassing words while speaking,
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Not comparing with other children, which is the enemy of self-confidence,
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Not making a personality analysis about the child (this child will not be a man, etc.) by looking at the child's report card,
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Result Not perceiving this as ungratefulness and disloyalty when bad things happen,
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Not connecting your love for your child to his/her academic success,
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Not giving excessive punishments,
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Not using accusatory and judgmental language.
Students always have opportunities to compensate for their failures and turn them into success. The child's success depends on his abilities, positive emotions, and self-confidence. The child's talents and interests need to be identified and supported.
In addition, the report card is not only the result of the student, but the result of everyone in the student's life network. The attitudes and behaviors of the family and the quality of communication and relationships established with the child also affect school success.
I end my article by asking you to ask yourself the following questions:
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I tell my child that I love him/her unconditionally. Did I make my child feel confident in every situation?
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Did I help my child gain self-confidence? Or did I constantly criticize and scold him?
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Did I go to his school once a month? Did I follow your lessons? How many teachers have I talked to on the phone? How many of your friends do I know?
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If your report card is good, there is no problem! So, am I aware of the state of his mental health and self-confidence?
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Did I do his lessons instead?
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Model him in the behaviors I want him to do. Could I be?
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