Do you realize that we live in an era where one in every two couples gets divorced? What happened that we came to this situation? What happened that we became unable to maintain a relationship? I think it is necessary to go back a few generations to understand this situation.
Let's start with men and women born in the 1930s. People of the period who personally experienced the Second World War. The grandmothers and grandfathers of today's young people. Türkiye at that time was not like it is today. Whatever idea a person produces, he earns money. It was a period when, according to the necessity of the patriarchal society, the woman was at home and the man hunted and brought money to the house. If you talk about education, the most is high school graduate. And that's not women, just men. Therefore, it is a period when ignorance emerges. It is an era where everyone accepts their assigned roles without question. It is debatable whether they were happy or unhappy, but they were more innocent. Their moral values were greater than their material values because they were people of the war era. They knew the value of life.
These people were married before they even knew themselves and were expected to behave according to their roles. If they did not act in accordance with that role, they would be shamed and ostracized. The woman's role was only motherhood and housework. The man, on the other hand, would earn money and support his household. Nobody would question this situation because there was nothing to question. However, when the economy started to develop again after the war and men started to hold money, things started to change. He started to feel even stronger than he already was, and that's where the cycle started to break down. Whatever happened, spiritual values were no longer enough. Instant pleasures started to come into play. Other women, drinking, gambling and whatever you add. Many women did not know about this. But they all felt it. Feminine instinct. But they always accepted. An understanding emerged such as "he is a man, whatever he does is appropriate, it is acceptable".
Let's talk about the children of this generation. 1950s. The mothers, fathers, aunts and uncles of today's young people. These people are more educated and knowledgeable than their parents. At least among the women, there are some who have graduated from high school and even a few have even studied at university. Among the men, there are university graduates. Even though they study, the relationship they observe in their own families is that women have no say and men have the right to everything. As the literacy rate increases, illiteracy decreases and eyesight increases. going crazy. Therefore, intervention had to be made before the eyes of this era were too wide open, and women should have gotten married when they reached their 20s. That's exactly what happened. But these women are unhappy women. You ask why? Because women who have not realized their potential. They wanted to study but were not allowed. His eyes opened once. Their awareness began to emerge, but they could not do anything. Because they did not have a work permit, they could not stand on their own feet. They were oppressed and despised, but they could never bring themselves to accept it. So what happened? They were never satisfied with their husbands. That's why they fell in love with boys. They experienced emotional satisfaction in their boys. The boy became the joy of her eyes and was always her priority. After all, they would save their mother when they grew up. (That's what happened. Divorces started in this period, taking the power of their children behind them.) Girls were always given this message: 'study, work, stand on your own feet, never experience what I experienced'. On the other hand, the marriages they take as a model are always unhappy because there is always unrest in the house. Therefore, on the other hand, the subconscious is full of fear about marriage.
So what are these young people doing today, how are they? Many of them are unhappy, many of them are experiencing great dilemmas. Girls studied, and they read a lot. University was not enough, they got a master's degree, a master's degree was not enough, they got a doctorate. They read and read. Every woman has a job, good or bad. The boys, on the other hand, did not bother much with themselves because they were their mothers' only children. They went in the same order. However, something was overlooked. Times have changed a lot. It's hard to make money now. We live in a time when only intelligence makes money. Unemployment increased. The power of men with money began to decrease, and women began to gain power with money. Technology entered their lives. Access to everything was very easy. Everyone's eyes have been opened a lot.
Relationships? A thousand witnesses to say relationship. Nobody can tolerate each other. Men are so used to being their mother's only child that they cannot handle the power of women. Women are so sensitive that they have begun to exaggerate their own power when it comes to being oppressed. Therefore, the balances have changed. Power struggles have begun. Cheating has become normal. Inner unhappiness has increased greatly. I don't know how to deal with this They started to anesthetize themselves because of what they were doing. Alcohol and drug rates have increased exponentially. Sex addiction has increased. The concept of 'night stand' emerged and entertainment changed its dimension.
When this happened, the era of unhappiness began. Life has accelerated so much that there is no time left to stop and think about what is happening. Please stop and think. How long will we perish in this order? Isn't it necessary to change this order somewhere? This era also has children now. How do those children grow up, with what values do they grow up? Just competing and racing. They enter school competition at the age of 3. As soon as they are born, their names are written in the school rules.
What happened to our moral values? They are within us. This is the source of unhappiness. Spiritual needs are waiting to be filled. To be loved, approved, valued, respected... For this, we need real and sincere relationships. Take 2 less holidays, buy 3 less sweaters, go to the movies 3 times instead of 5, but have a family that you love and are loved by. You will truly be happier then. But for this, first review your VALUES. Then we can transition to the era of happiness.
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