Jealousy in children can manifest itself for many reasons, but the important thing is to accept the jealousy your child is experiencing, know how to control it, and act accordingly. Some parents find it difficult to ignore and accept their children's jealousy, and most of the time they do not accept it. For example; You have all heard from the parents around you from time to time, sentences that seem to be imposed on children, such as "my child has never been jealous of his sibling" or "my child is not jealous of anyone". Every child can be jealous. This jealousy may be directed at his sibling, his friend, or he may even be jealous of his parents. Sibling jealousy is more common, especially in younger age groups. When a new baby is added to the family, the jealousy of the older brother or sister may manifest itself before the baby is born, or this jealousy may start after the baby is born and reaches a certain age. This jealousy may arise from many different reasons. Before the baby is born, parents should prepare their older brother or sister by meeting them, giving them information and explaining the situation. While making this statement, they should definitely say that there will be no loss or decrease in the love they feel for their children. Because this is why jealousy manifests itself, especially in children in the younger age group. Care should be taken not to disrupt the routines you have with your child after the baby is born. If one parent cannot do it, the other should not neglect to spend time with the child. Care should be taken to ensure that these times are of good quality. As long as the time spent is enjoyable for the child, even if it is short, children will adapt to the new process in this family in a shorter time. If your child goes to nursery, kindergarten, etc. If it is going away, start sending it some time after the birth because if you send it right after birth, this may cause anxiety and distress for the child, thinking that he wants to send him away from home or that you want to spend more time with the baby.
In addition to sibling jealousy, jealousy may also occur among the child's friends. . Sometimes children are jealous of some of their belongings and do not want to share them with their friends, and they are often rejected by their parents. They are forced to be shared. This behavior by parents is not a very healthy behavior. Because it is normal for the child not to want to share an important item with his friend. If your child has such an atmosphere in every situation, you should ask your child about the reasons for this situation and talk to him (without scolding him or getting angry at him, of course), but if this is valid for a very small situation, then you should respect your child's unwillingness to share.
We must not forget that every child can be jealous. Jealousy is a normal emotion. The important thing is that this jealousy (if it is a sibling jealousy) should be informed to the children in advance and explained to them about the new family order (because a new member joins the family, of course some orders will change). If peer jealousy is experienced, no matter what the reason is, the reasons for the jealousy must be learned, but while doing this, it should not be done in an interrogating manner or with questions such as "Are you jealous of him?" More questions should be asked so that we can learn the reasons.
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